Note: I'm using a fresh account for this, please don't be put off by the lack of any comment history, but you guys know the stigma attached to this community, and I don't want that on my personal account. I'm going to try and contribute as much as I can to this sub during the course of this project, to pay forward any help you guys give me now and hopefully develop a little credibility.
I've been reading lots of posts lately concerned about the heavy focus on inner game and basic techniques in this subreddit, some people even calling for new 'advanced' subreddits to be made. This isn't something I'm going to comment on directly, but if that is a concern you're having, hopefully you'll find my project interesting and can help me complete it.
So first, a little about me. I'm a 22 year old Law graduate in England, I'm good looking (I'd say 7/10, maybe 8 on a good day), I'm smart, in decent shape, and I'm fully comfortable with hitting on girls. I'm no AFC, but I'm no player.
Up to now, I'd call myself a 'relationship guy', just bouncing from girl to girl, one at a time. I've never felt comfortable even sleeping with multiple women casually, not out of some sense of chivalry, but more than anything the idea of them banging other dudes was an unnatural level of uncomfortable for me, and not reevaluating that stance for far too long.
As a result, I've just been bouncing from mini-casual relationship to mini-casual relationship. It's been fun, but it's an awkward compromise. I really just want sex and fun at this stage in my life, but any sense of exclusivity breeds a relationship scenario. I'm very much ready to push my boundaries to see if I'm just being stupid, and if I enjoy this lifestyle.
For the record, I've been an 'AFC'. I've been through the 'I can't get the courage to talk to a girl' issues, not assuming attraction, I had extensive inner game problems, I've been overweight, but I've resolved pretty much everything. A lot of that started with this sub and it's inner game posts, the sub was a massive help to me, I couldn't have done it without you guys. Although I found the 'outer game' material was almost completely counter productive until I resolved my 'inner' issues, the benefits I've gained from sorting out my issues around confidence have been massive.
So where do I want to go from here? This is where you come in. I want to sample the PUA lifestyle, but I definitely have holes in my game, and I think you guys have to knowledge to help me. I can do long-term game, but my record as far as same night lay's are concerned is awful. How do I take my game from 'I can be interesting and attractive enough over a couple of dates that you'll be interested in me as a partner' to developing enough attraction in one night to lead to sex? What were the things that helped you the most when trying to reduce your time between meeting someone and having sex. Am I looking at this from the wrong angle? Any advice would be really helpful! I'll list all the resources I'm looking at below as I read them.
I'm going to take any advice I get with this thread, combined with any extra reading I do, add a serious reduction in alcohol intake so I can actually remember it and I'll post FR's, I'm going to commit to going out 2 times a week, but I'm going to try for 3.
tl;dr: Help me take my game from 'I can be interesting and attractive enough over a couple of dates that you'll be interested in me as a partner' to developing enough attraction in one night to lead to sex.
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