[FR] First night out, holy crap did I learn so much

Robin-Hood · 2013-06-20T13:34:11+00:00

I'm no expert, also learning, but I'll weigh in anyway. People can correct me or disagree or whatever as necessary.

In night game I don't think you really can 'escalate too quickly' as long as she's comfortable & willing you. Just don't jump in there like you're riding the rape train.
Enter the group as a 'group'. Address the group or whatever, acknowledge their presence don't be a dick. But then pick one girl, if there are guys ask if she's with any of them, you can do this openly to the group or just to her. (If a guy there is her boyfriend I recommend just being like okay dude I'm not trying to cockblock have a nice night whatever, next.) Anyway assuming she's good to go then engage her and after you have her engaged you can disregard everything else. Don't even turn around or bat an eyelid if someone tries to distract you or talk to you or cock block. Really bring her in so you are both in your own little world. If that means picking her up and turning round or placing yourself between her & someone else to maintain your little world so be it.
Clubs SUCK in my opinion. Girls in clubs are expecting to get hit on 50 times, they are expecting a tonne of free drinks from douchey clueless guys willing to throw their money away trying to be 'baller'. Honestly I think you're better picking up chicks outside or on the way to places for a night out. Engage them in the street or outside an establishment, make a connection & then you can head to a club or a bar together as a group/couple/whatever. Just be alpha and lead. Bars are easier than clubs but the same applies somewhat.

Just my $0.02, see what the more experience sedditors say.

_groundcontrol · 2013-06-20T14:42:25+00:00

Its your first night out, and you dont know things. It took a year for me to start bringing home girls. Just keep on trying and dont give up!

Mooshaq · 2013-06-20T19:24:44+00:00

Well clearly you don't want your set jacked, so the former is better. That being said, the easiest way to "get over it" is to just learn the appropriate level of touch/timing of escalation.
Make sure to make connections with the whole group. If you only talk to the girl you're interested in and leave out the other girls/guys, they'll feel ostracized and will often attempt to steal their friend from you. On the other hand, if you give the friends the impression that you're a cool guy, they won't worry about leaving their female friend (your target) with you.
I hate clubs. Bars where I can actually hear people are my preferred spot. That being said, if you really like clubs and you want to pick up chicks from there, then just look up resources on how to do it. Cater to your personality. If you are a bit more introverted or prefer deep conversation, try day game (check out Roosh or Krauser for day game help). If you just like to banter and screw around, and don't really like deep conversation, stick to bars and clubs.

Paratath · 2013-06-20T16:03:05+00:00

In many ways I'd say its not an exact science but you seem to have the balls to go out there and graft and that will be your success. Approaching will lead to calibration and in turn you will hold attention for longer. Perhaps look at learning some more materials that you can have in the back of your mind so if things start to get awkward you can immediately say "Hey do you ever get it when... blah blah..." and lead into something playful again. Each set you loose has the potential to highlight a solution to you for the future

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2013-06-22T03:38:51+00:00

1) Definitely escalate kino with every girl. At first, it might feel weird to you (and therefore, probably to them also) but after a while, it will become totally natural and you'll do it without necessarily thinking about it. Arm and back at first, then legs, then stomach, etc.

2) You can and should approach multi-sets and mixed sets (mixed gender groups). Even if you feel uncomfortable, do it, because it will expand your horizons and enable you to approach them next time comfortably.

Any time you wonder, "Can this be done? Should I do this?" You absolutely should. You'll feel nervous, do it, and then realize that the consequences weren't bad at all. Even when you blow out, it will pump your state, you'll feel like a badass (as you did after tonight) and you'll be able to do it again next time.

3) You can open anyone with anything, any time. "Hi, I'm Yetzirah." I even read an FR about a guy who opened a girl with "Butt Cheese," made it silly/funny, and chatted her up and got her number. You don't need anything to talk to anyone but the balls to walk up and actually do it.

RonPaulArrowToTheKne · 2013-06-20T17:20:35+00:00

Lol.

Title	[FR] First night out, holy crap did I learn so much
Author	Elano22
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Date	June 20, 2013 10:04 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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