Seddit, Thank you. It's been about a year since I have started getting into game. I first read "The Game" and instantly noticed results from what I had read. In a years time, I have had probably 100 plus random makeouts, turned a girl who hated me into a fuck buddy, had a threesome with said girl and another girl and I am currently dating a milf. But with these accomplishments I have had a copious amount of fails. I've been too needy, I've been too quick, and I've been too slow.

This is what I have learned in the past year that has allowed me to get where I am today:

1.) Have fun. I can't emphasize how much this helped me with my game. At first my primary goal when I would go out would be to get girls, or sarge. It worked, but not as well as I thought it would. That's when I started to realize what RSD meant. Just go out and have fun. Don't give a fuck about what people think. I was watching the Honey badger video one day and I adopted the Honey Badger mentality. "Honey Badger doesn't give a shit, Honey badger takes what he wants!" That really stuck with me. I looked elsewhere to help reinforce this idea. /r/hownottogiveafuck really helped with that.

2.) Apply what you learn everywhere you can. I noticed that when I started gaming, it opened up my sex life but it also opened up my professional life. I noticed a ton of positive feedback from the way I would be at work. I would apply what I learned from game in all aspects of my life, like eye contact. Always maintain strong eye contact. I use this at work all the time and I've noticed that people respect me more when I'm staring them in the eyes, instead of looking away. So in order to make this happen, I started to look outside of game. /r/socialskills has a ton of good information to help you get out of that socially awkward feeling I was in.

3.) Communicate. I recently just graduated with my bachelors in communications, and I can honestly say that people do not know how to communicate. We know how to talk to each other and hear what others says, but we don't know how to LISTEN. There is such a communication breakdown between people. This noise that interferes with out communication can really make things worse. Noise can be anything, but what I really noticed when applying it to game was the gender differences, and how men and women don't even communicate anywhere remotely close to each other. Two books that I recommend that you read to help understand how men and women communicate differently would be Deborah Tannen's "You Just Don't Understand" and John Gray's "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". After reading these two books I have begun to understand why some of my previous relationships have failed, and what I can do to help prevent it from happening in future relationships. If I could give one point that I learned from each book would be this: Tannen says that the primary way women communicate is based on emotion, where men's primary communication style is logic. Listen to the way women talk to each other. They often sympathize with each other in regards to most conversation. Men are always one upping each other or are trying to over advice to fix something. Grays says men to just listen, don't offer advice, just shut up and listen. It's so key!

4.) Being Confident. This was probably one of the hardest things for me because I didn't know what being confident meant. I literally looked online for definitions and tried to look up how to be confident. But the thing is you have to believe you are. You can't think you are, you have to believe it. I learned what it was when I learned how to be it, which is totally fucking backwards. So to anyone who doesn't know what confident means, you're not alone. Just believe that you are confident, tell yourself that you are confident. you'll be surprised what will happen...you'll start levitating and shit...no but really, you'll be amazed on how confident you can get.

5.) Pick up on details. I can't begin to say how important this is. If she cuts her hair, ask her about it. If she looks a little tan her, bring it up. By picking up on these little details I noticed that women find me to be focused in on her. If you find a dress to be sexy on her, tell her that you like it.

6.) Take the good with the bad. I've been on some amazing streaks where I'm just getting results after results, then all of a sudden, nothing seems to work. What I realized is that this is where you learn the most. Sometimes you need to be rejected and taken off of your high horse, because if you only go up, you'll never appreciate it for what it's worth. Sometimes women aren't going to be feeling you, and it sucks some major donkey balls. I got so butt hurt over this girl because she flaked out on me and just completely shut me out and it sucked. It made me realize where I went wrong and made me strive to get better.

This is just some little things that I have noticed that helped me become a better overall person. If you have any questions feel free to contact me. If it wasn't for you guys, I'd still be frustrated with women. Alright, its my actual birthday, gotta go out and have some fun tonight!

Edit: Spellings. Second grade wasn't my greatest.