[FR] First ever approach

Quick background- I'm 20 and it's been 2 years since I broke up with my last girlfriend. Since then I've hooked up with one girl. I found this sub a little bit ago and have been lurking since. This summer I decided to stop being a pussy and to start trying to change my life. A few days ago I visited a friend and left my town and thought that this would be a good opportunity to push my comfort zone (really bad AA) since I would never have to see these people again. After a few missed opportunities and generally feeling shitty, I decided to go for it:

Last day in town, we went to a diner for breakfast. We get an attractive waitress- HB7. Usually I would spend the entire meal focused 100% on my friend and avoid eye contact. This morning something different happened. my friend and I talked over breakfast and started joking around about how we should ask for her number in a ridiculous way and w/e. This time I actually decide to go through with it.

She gives us a receipt and I tell my friend I'm going to do it. he laughs and says he's going to the bathroom because it would be to awk for him to be a part of. part of me didn't want to go through with it at this point because he left and it was just me. I said fuck it. she comes back and I say, "hey I have a question about this receipt," pointing at the restaurant's number at the top "is this the best number to reach you at?" she says "like the restaurant?" to which i replied, "no, you personally" and i smirked at her. it's worth noting that I'm usually really nervous while talking to girls, but this time i was fucking cheesing my ass off, honestly trying not to laugh because this was such a big rush/really fun and exciting. she says, "haha I have a boyfriend" and i replied "oh, how long have you had that problem?" she laughs and tells me to have a nice day.

I think the most important part of this was for the first time I didn't give a shit about whether it worked or not- I just wanted to make a memory and have something to laugh about with my friend when we go back to college.

Lessons Learned:

stop being a pussy
be outcome independent and have fun
success doesn't always mean closing

tips/comments appreciated :)

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Rapport really depends on the situation, the environment, and the girl. If she's tanked at the bar, it will more than likely take less rapport than other gals. The "apocalypse openers" are full of bs and they're pointless.

The thing about rapport is establishing a connection so she can see your personality and judge if you're a creeper or not. Once she gets a taste of your personality, she will determine whether she wants this to continue or not. I don't look like Ryan Gosling and I'm almost positive you don't either so asking girls out in the open doesn't really work. Once that rapport has been established, you can move onto the next stage.

The hot girls at work are hit on every day, all day, and will always shoot down AFCs. It is your job to separate yourself from the AFC by building that rapport. Let her build that interest in you. Let her wonder if you're going to come into her work. She will wonder if you like her or not and why you're not asking her out like all the other AFCs that come to her work. It will drive her crazy if she's into you.

All this has to be balanced without disturbing her work. You do not want to get her in trouble nor do you want to piss off other customers. Most importantly, these girls are PAID to be nice, sweet, funny, and cute. Did you see that episode of South Park where Butters fell in love with that girl at the restaurant? Ok, well that's a little extreme, but you get my point. It's always a shot in the dark with these girls.

I asked out a girl at the ice cream shop a few years ago. Super cute, super sweet, and everything in between. I came up with some stupid line and she gave me her number. She never showed to our meetup. She did it to be nice and probably wanted a tip. (But she put a smily face next to her number! lol)

I'm working on establishing rapport with a cashier. I went through her line about a week ago in where she gave me some serious IOI's while I lightly flirted with her. The second time I caught her staring at me when I walked in while she was with a customer. She gave me a huge ass smile with eye contact for a good amount of time before she continued working (my buddy was jealous and made us go to a different line so didn't talk to her lol). The next time I go there, I'm gonna test the waters and throw out some IOIs of my own. If she goes for the bait, I'm going for the kill.

My example is good for any working gal. Once you have that rapport built, ask her "Are you allowed to date customers?" This is a very easy line to use to find if she's willing to drop her number to you. It's not really asking her out and it gives her a chance to say no if she's not into you without feeling bad or pressured. If she says yes, your chances of success are really good.

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Title	[FR] First ever approach
Author	perchedhigh
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	July 7, 2013 9:03 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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