Indirect vs Direct: Let's end this once and for all

pschr · 2013-07-28T23:50:12+00:00

A girl should both floss and use a tooth brush.

frogma · 2013-07-28T23:55:43+00:00

He's talking about the terms regarding their general usage, and in that case, I totally agree with his points.

Usually though, when people say "direct" vs. "indirect," they're referring to the wording of your opener. An opening compliment is pretty much always "direct" (unless you're just joking or insulting the person). Whereas an opening observation about this nice weather is pretty much always "indirect," even if you're oozing sexual charisma.

For example, I hardly ever open with a compliment about random shit. I hardly ever say "Hey, you're cute, I thought I should come talk to you." Regardless of my tone/demeanor/whatever, it's too "direct" for me.

Beyond that though, I completely agree with what the guy's saying, if we're just talking about a general sort of "directness" or "indirectness." You should definitely be doing a bit of both, throughout an interaction.

Edit to add a bit: In other words, IMO it's not really even possible to open with a genuine compliment while remaining entirely "indirect." Regardless of your intentions, the person will most likely interpret it as a show of interest either way. And when you open with some shit about the weather -- even despite your awesomeness -- the person probably won't take it as a sure sign of interest.

rmbarnes · 2013-07-29T13:58:02+00:00

He's right overall saying it doesn't matter.

I'd expand on thus by describing direct vs indirect as a red herring. Its just not a huge factor in someone's success or lack thereof.

Title	Indirect vs Direct: Let's end this once and for all
Author	MichaelValmont1
Upvotes	16
Comments	3
Date	July 28, 2013 5:46 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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