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I just can't seem to close

ShitSuxx

August 4, 2013

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Title	I just can't seem to close
Author	ShitSuxx
Upvotes	1
Comments	2
Date	August 4, 2013 6:17 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1jo3fu/i_just_cant_seem_to_close/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/i-just-cant-seem-to-close.1356373 https://theredarchive.com/post/1356373

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[–]bl1y 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

With the nurse, this was pretty simple, you got cock blocked, and given the situation there wasn't much of anything you could do about it. She isn't going to tell her dd friend to go piss off so she can get laid. But, you should have foreseen she wasn't going to make a move with the dd friend there trying to cockblock, and not invited her in. You're forcing her to reject you, and with witnesses, and you're also declaring to her friend that you think she's DTF, so you're demonstrating a lack of discretion -- that might be what made her lose interest.

With the friend of the sister, first thing "attempted to F-close" is not a helpful description. Did you ask her if she wanted to have sex and she said no? Try to take her pants off and she stopped you? The details matter.

Again, another logistical problem; few girls are going to be okay having sex with a guy in someone's living room. And again, you've missed the cue. Unlike asking the nurse to come in, I think it wasn't a problem to go for it. The missed cue is continuing to try after she's told you that she doesn't want to have sex in the friend's living room. That's not token resistance, and it's a huge turnoff to keep at it after getting that no.

As for the drunk girl, she was drunk. That's all the explanation you can hope for.

What the first two situations and your intro have in common is that you're focusing too much on the end result of having sex. That causes you to push too much for it, which comes across as needy and desperate. Try going out with the goal not of getting laid, but making the girl beg for it.

[–]ShitSuxx[S] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

With the nurse, this was pretty simple, you got cock blocked, and given the situation there wasn't much of anything you could do about it. She isn't going to tell her dd friend to go piss off so she can get laid. But, you should have foreseen she wasn't going to make a move with the dd friend there trying to cockblock, and not invited her in. You're forcing her to reject you, and with witnesses, and you're also declaring to her friend that you think she's DTF, so you're demonstrating a lack of discretion -- that might be what made her lose interest.

Really? Something that minor would make a girl completely lose interest?

With the friend of the sister, first thing "attempted to F-close" is not a helpful description. Did you ask her if she wanted to have sex and she said no? Try to take her pants off and she stopped you? The details matter.

We were making out and I was attempting to "warm the oven" by pulling her in close and rubbing her body (ass, breasts, etc). She seemed to really enjoy it, but when I began working my hands up her dress, she stopped me.

Again, another logistical problem; few girls are going to be okay having sex with a guy in someone's living room. And again, you've missed the cue. Unlike asking the nurse to come in, I think it wasn't a problem to go for it. The missed cue is continuing to try after she's told you that she doesn't want to have sex in the friend's living room. That's not token resistance, and it's a huge turnoff to keep at it after getting that no.

I only went for it twice, and I kept a pretty big gap between the attempts.

What the first two situations and your intro have in common is that you're focusing too much on the end result of having sex. That causes you to push too much for it, which comes across as needy and desperate. Try going out with the goal not of getting laid, but making the girl beg for it.

This is where I get so frustrated. It used to be that I didn't push for it at all, so girls slipped right through my fingers. Now you're telling me I'm pushing for it too much. It seems like no matter what I do I miss the mark. I either play it too casual, and the girl slips through my fingers because I "never made a move", or I play it too aggressive and a girl thinks I'm a sleaze. Meanwhile, I know guys who are so incredibly sleazy, and it's working for them.

Fuck