Why Desperation is Self-Perpetuating [Primer]

patrick_j · 2013-08-17T03:37:15+00:00

I realize there's not a cure-all article people can just read and suddenly have all their problems solved. This article is a starting point. But I have a question.

So lets say you successfully adopt this mindset, and you're happy talking to a cute girl. No ulterior motives here. You're totally happy being single.

Well then how the fuck are you going to get into a relationship?

I've definitely felt this same way occasionally. I'm happy being single and I'm perfectly happy to talk to this cute girl with no motives of getting into her pants or even taking her on a date. And that's exactly what happens. I talk to a girl. She leaves. That's it. End of story.

You're going to have to make a move at some point. And when that time comes, are you going to snap back into your old self, who was desperate to be in a relationship?

I just get the feeling that if you really buy into this attitude of 'well I'm perfectly happy being single,' then that's how you'll stay. Single.

2013-08-17T17:15:55+00:00

Ahhh, this really hit home with me. I am this guy, as much as it pains me to say. I've been single for 3 years now (I'm 21). I started pick-up this summer and have drastically improved with talking to women and being less outcome-dependent. But still, I'm not closing. I've approached nearly 100 girls this summer, only really hooked up with one.

Sometimes it'll feel as though all women are responding to you in a similar fashion. I think this desperation is the reason why. I exert so much time and energy to get laid that I forget to pursue my other hobbies and friends. Girls are clever motherfuckers. They read this like its written on my forehead.

Today, I've decided to take a mini break from gaming and focus on other aspects of life.

This is a great article Hero, thanks for sharing.

changeh · 2013-08-17T23:39:53+00:00

Reading this article has opened my eyes. I've been so desperate to jump into another relationship because I want to forget my previous 5 year relationship. I doesn't feel normal being "single" for me since I'm so used to being in a relationship.

This has caused me to be very desperate to find someone else to be with. Was talking to some chick I used to know and I've realised I've probably came off really needy and now she ignores me (no big deal though, I'm over it).

Now I want to just concentrate in on my life, get my confidence up by talking to as many cute girls as possible. Not so I can find another girlfriend, but so that I can improve my inner and outer game.

Title	Why Desperation is Self-Perpetuating [Primer]
Author	Hero_of_Hot
Upvotes	13
Comments	4
Date	August 16, 2013 10:06 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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