On Tuesday I invited a girl over to my house that I had hung out with once before. During our first meet up, the girl and I had some great chemistry. We kissed early and often and generally had a good time. However, when she came to my house, she was obviously uncomfortable on my bed and let me know that she didn't want to hookup. This "wasn't [her] anymore" and she "used to hookup but not anymore." I basically told her that the person she used to be and me would have gotten along better. I may have cock blocked myself. Maybe I could have used some disarming line that would have made her panties drop instantly, but I didn't get that vibe and instead asked her to leave. I had not been explicitly clear about what I expected and wasn't going to let my intentions be misconstrued again

So, yesterday, I arranged a meetup with a girl I met when I ended up at a house party she threw. We kissed at the party, but it didn't go anywhere else because she was hosting and had other responsibilities. At first, I invited her to my house, thinking my intentions would be very clear. She seemed down until she learned that I lived pretty far away and she let me know that she didn't know me well enough to drive all the way out to my house and felt it would be better if we met somewhere in between. I was about to blow her off, thinking that if she wasn't going to take my invitation, then she wasn't down for what it implied. Thankfully, I realized that my experience the day before was making me stupid. I put myself in the girl's shoes and completely understood why she wouldn't want to go to some guy's house that she only had a hazy memory of. I texted her back to say I understood and gave her the address to a park that was about halfway between our houses. Pride wouldn't cockblock me this time!

We met up and I could instantly tell that we had chemistry. We had some good conversation, talking about our studies, fitness, and medicine. I brought up us kissing at the party. It was kind of a funny situation because when I pulled her in at the party, she originally turned her head and said "On the cheek." In response, I just looked at her with a kind of bored expression on my face and said "No." She shrugged and kissed me. We laughed about the interaction a little bit and then I pulled her in for a kiss.

At one point in the conversation, she says that while she was texting me, she imagined that I may be a dick. I assured her that I was. She kept saying yeah, I could see that, and I would always agree and amplify. Every time I replied she noticed the same stupid grin on my face.

One of my favorite questions to ask a girl on our first meetup is "What's your favorite kind of porn." I say it nonchalantly and out of the blue. There are two main responses to this question and the way I present it: laughter or silence. If a girl is silent, then she probably isn't comfortable talking about sex or things of a sexual nature. Hopefully the girl laughs, and I can bring sex into the conversation early on and show that I'm a very sexual person. This girl happened to laugh and says

"I'm not telling you."

I say "Ah, so you watch porn."

"Not willingly. My ex boyfriend asked me to watch porn with him once."

We start discussing how it really put her out of the mood. I think at some point I must have told a story about hooking up. I didn't want to beat around the bush and end up confused again, so I asked the girl

"What are you looking for out of a guy?"

"Well... I'm definitely not looking for a relationship, and I'm guessing you aren't either since you mentioned hooking up. What are you looking for?"

"Well, I don't know if 'fuck buddy' is the most elegant way to put it, but it's accurate."

"I understand what you mean. You don't have that arrangement with anyone else right now?"

"Nope." (This is kind of true. I don't have anything really consistent at the moment.)

She asked me to promise and after I did she said "So, we're going to be fuck buddies?"

I just said yes. We ended up going to my car and I coaxed her into hooking up a little bit, during which she said "Oh my god, when are we going to have sex?" I told her ASAP and we made plans to hangout Saturday.

TL;DR: Maintaining a cocky-funny attitude and making my personality/intentions clear landed me a new fuck budy