On my way to and from the gym, I have been doing an approach anxiety program. Here's a link to the intro: http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/approach-anxiety-program/approach-anxiety-program

and here's a link to the first week of the program: http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/approach-anxiety-program/approach-anxiety-program-week-1-1

Regardless of how you feel about the website itself or the author of the website, I encourage anyone that has trouble with approach anxiety to give the program a try. I'm on week 5 (of 8) and have shocked myself with my progress. It follows a basic principle of exposure therapy, but is more guided, and I believe, more helpful than simply saying: "Go do 100 sets."

Anyway, back to my story. I finished my drill for the day on the way home from the gym. As I was walking I noticed a cute blonde walking towards me. I made eye contact and smiled and she gave a pretty warm response. Part of the program urges you not to focus on getting laid using the program as to not get discouraged in the beginning stages, but I thought I'd take a chance. I stopped her and said hello. She seemed surprised and happy that I stopped her. I'm a big fan of the direct approach during the day, so I said

"Hey how's it going? I know this is pretty random, but I thought you were attractive and wanted to say hello."

Elizabeth was impressed by my straight forwardness, and we made some small talk. Now, I have never had an instant date, so I wasn't even thinking about attempting one. I was beginning to steer the conversation towards getting her number, but she surprised me by saying "So do you want to get a drink?"

I was taken aback, but I quickly recovered and said "Yeah let's go!" I took her to a place that I pass on my walk home from the gym. I get a tap water and she gets a ginger ale (big spenders). We sit outside and chat for a little bit more. I find out she's 6 years older than me, so I don't give away my age at first. She doesn't seem to mind and assumes I'm older than her. We talk about work, family, etc. At some point, I say "So, you seem like a pretty spontaneous person, is that accurate?" After she confirms, I lean in and kiss her. I decide that I want to go for broke on this interaction. I try to figure out the logistics of getting her somewhere more private.

I ask her what her brother is doing and she says he's relaxing at home. I tell her that I was hoping he'd be away. She laughs nervously, so I take this as my cue.

"Guess it'll have to be my place then. Follow me."

I grab her hand and lead her out of her seat towards my house. There's a bit of nervous excitement between us. She says "This just doesn't happen! You don't meet someone sober on the streets, go on a date, and then figure out details of going home with them!"

She did not say this in a way that implied she didn't want to, just that she was shocked by the situation. I was hesitant to bring her back to my house at first because I live with a lot of people and didn't want anyone around. I checked inside to make sure the coast was clear. The stars must have been aligned. I led her to my room immediately. There was absolutely no resistance, and we had great, spontaneous sex.

Afterwards, I led her to the bus station nearby and told her my real age (20). She was shocked by my confidence for my age and didn't seem to mind at all. She gave me her number and said we should definitely hangout again soon.

TL;DR: Met a girl on the street, directly approached her, she suggested we go for drinks, shortly after I took her home. Had sex.

Important notes:

  • This was not a daytime approach. Most daytime approaches I have experienced are "cold approaches" where as this was definitely "warm." She was clearly interested from the beginning

  • I was lucky that the girl was of an adventurous nature and actually suggested we go on the date.

  • It is my personal belief that stating interest and holding frame are the best strategies for daytime approaches.