Last night I went out with a couple of guys and girls that I know to this bar we've been to a couple of time. We walked in and then and there I saw a girl that caught my eye. I walked past went and sat down with my friends and it was going to be just a simple night with friends. Once again I got AA. Next moment I just said to my friends "guys, I'll be right back, there's a girl I want to go talk to" and with that I left. She was there with a female friend who at the time was buying a drink for herself.

I went up, I pulled a chair from the table besides her and she turned to look at me and I smiled and so did she.

  • Me: Hi, I'm CaesarMD, what's your name?
  • ~she is a bit taken aback and shyly/defensively replied
  • Her: Buna (Romanian for Hello)
  • Me (in Romanian): Ah, you don't speak English, not a problem, I speak Romanian.

And from there on I asked her if she was a student, what she studied, what she wanted to become, how her teachers were, where she worked, where she wanted to see herself after university.

Did I get her number? No. after about 5-10 minutes and I smiled and said it was nice to meet her and that I had to go back to some friends of mine. All in all I was really happy with how I went. She was really receptive and nice and talked without a problem.

Why I didn't get her number is because we were too different. I had aspirations and goals and wanted to achieve something while she was just studying university to have a degree, but the field she was studying was not something she wanted to be involved in. She had worked at different places and knew what she wanted to do when she finished, and that was just get a well paid easy job where her effort was minimal. I was pretty much exactly the opposite to her in every way.

I want to say to all of you that are afraid to approach one thing. Approaching isn't difficult. It's not an insurmountable task. Girls in general are very open at bars and you just have to be nice and polite, and of course actually go and introduce yourself. Also, I'm pretty sure the girl I tried to talk to spoke English, and by speaking Romanian to me, she was trying to put me off. If I was a pussy I would have just freaked out because I don't know how to speak Romanian well, but instead I made use of what I could and went for it anyway. From that moment she was hooked. Don't back down or show any sign of insecurity because you shouldn't have any.

A big thanks also to Mark Manson and his book Models. I've only read it once but man has it helped a lot.