Im about to give up

GhostriderFlyBy · 2013-10-19T08:33:20+00:00

Well, being on reddit right now isn't helping your chances.

IMO, fuck clubs my concept of approach and game is built on conversation, which is impossible in a club. Bail, go to a lounge or craft cocktail place, and leave,your phone in the car (ok back pocket you'll need it for numbers)

PunchDancer · 2013-10-19T14:55:49+00:00

Don't compare yourself to others. There's no point. Put in effort and embrace the growing pains on the road to being your better self. It's not easy, which is why it's valuable.
You seem like you have don't think you're worth the girl's time. If you quit then you're right. But if you step up and push through the hardship then you've accomplished more than the girls you're approaching have that night, this month, maybe even this year. Be turned on by your actions, fuck their reactions

2013-10-19T16:09:01+00:00

When you look at a successful person, whether they're a businessman, martial artist, PUA, etc., you don't see the hundred failures they had to endure in order to get just one tiny bit of success.

Hell, they're not even "failures". They're more like "learning experiences". Every time she says no, you learn something. Every time she flakes on a date, you learn something. Every time you get rejected, you learn something.

(of course, every time she tells you "I want your cock right-fucking-now", you learn something as well)

Every experience, good or bad, forces you to grow as a person. Every experience enriches you. It doesn't matter if she says yes or no. As long as you take action (i.e. just fucking do it), you will succeed. Every single time you take action, you improve your future success rates. It takes time, effort, sweat, and tears, but you will succeed as long as you just keep doing it.

Sure, you could give up if you want to. It's comfortable to sit at home, in warm pajamas, sipping some hot cocoa as you gently masturbate yourself to sleep. But, do you really, really want that?

Fuck no.

samsmith09 · 2013-10-19T11:33:46+00:00

Don't believe that clubs are the only place to pick up women. For me it's the worst place! Try talking to women during the day, when your self esteem builds up then you can try approaching them with more direct sexual advances. Women are so much nicer during the day, trust me. Never had a horrible rejection during the day, had plenty in clubs!

joshsway · 2013-10-19T13:29:50+00:00

(1) Club game is very non-verbal... try opening with dance moves. See this guys videos: DanceFloorSeduction youtube station (http://www.youtube.com/user/DanceFloorSeduction). Also, as others have said, the club is a challenge, build up your confidence with baby steps to help overcome your approach anxiety.

2013-10-19T14:23:57+00:00

"There are three choices in this life be good get good or give up". Always remember there are not so many "naturals",... if you want in you are going to have to cope with some pain along the way... it's still better than waking up 50 years from now thinking about all these "what if's"

Splatterh0use · 2013-10-23T06:04:46+00:00

Im in a club right now

Main problem. Clubs are not meant to be places where you can interact, because people are there just to show off. In my experience clubs are the worst place to get girls unless you are drunk enough to abort your feelings and just hit one girl after the other. Go to bars, pubs, or anything that resembles a place where you can actually listen to the conversation you are having and where people dress normally and have less bullshit on them. Good luck my friend.

Title	Im about to give up
Author	faso42
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	October 19, 2013 7:58 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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