What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?

lucasmello · 2013-10-25T00:56:24+00:00

There is a reason we repeat this over and over again: Be independent of thhe outcome.

You can't let one or even a thousand fuck up get in the way of your next approach. It is like having a speed bump in the road, and then just stopping the car and stay there. But you dont do that, you go over the speed bump, it might be painful, it might even take more time than the normal path.

The-Red-Pillar · 2013-10-25T03:10:32+00:00

Don't worry about it. It's a process. You win some, you lose some. Rome wasn't built in a day. And so on.

Not fapping, smoking, or drinking won't magically help your game. It'll definitely help you strengthen your willpower, which is fantastic, but it won't necessarily help your game.

Look, you've only been doing this a month. It takes a long time and a lot of work, but you'll get there. You can't expect to play guitar for only a month and suddenly be the next guitar shredding god.

Relax. Rub one out, drink some hot cocoa, and get some good sleep. The only thing that matters is that you took action. Just by taking action, you've literally gone further than most men ever will (and I don't mean literally as in "figuratively", I literally mean literally). The outcome of an approach doesn't matter, it only serves you as a learning tool. As long as you keep taking consistent action, you will get better.

Like, motherfucker, you're new to this and you're going out solo. Take a step back, think for a second, and recognize your own huge balls.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-10-25T00:26:09+00:00

I quit smoking and I barely drink anymore. Didn't fap for over 50 days and haven't smoked pot for almost a week.

What is happening to you: you are becoming boring and tedious. Your life is defined by what you are not doing.

I recommend you go smoke a joint and then masturbate.

Bad_Ace_Brother · 2013-10-24T23:14:08+00:00

If your AA is that bad I would go out with a friend or a group. Trying to do a couple loner missions is hard at first. Get a wingman and go get em.

2013-10-25T04:27:28+00:00

You fear rejection. It happens to all of us.

Realize a few things:

You will get rejected. A lot. Even the best PuAs in the world still get rejected all the time.
Rejection is nothing to fear. It has no bearing on you as a person. No matter how many times you get close, no matter how many times you get rejected, you are still a unique awesome human being.
You need to let go. Shit happens. The quicker you can move on from bad things (and not grasping onto good things! that's called neediness) the better off you will be.

These are all big concepts to grasp emotionally. Keep working on your inner game. In the mean time, approach approach approach approach approach approach.

jetlag84 · 2013-10-25T03:24:14+00:00

Seems like you recognize that the reason you kept getting rejected was dwelling on the first one, along with specifically noticing problems with your voice and body language. So you already know what to work on. Just go back to it with a conscious resolve to do better with those specific issues, don't dwell on rejection, assume attraction, and see what happens.

I'd say you also just need to jump in quicker next time. You wandered around building up nervous energy for a whole hour before approaching a single woman. It would be impossible for anyone not to be "in their head" after all that.

SlickJamesBitch · 2013-10-25T05:39:29+00:00

Try self talk, it sounds awkward, but just tell yourself you are beastly man God that has every woman only a wink away from them jumping on your tremendous wang and you will project it.

Title	What The Fuck Is Happening To Me?
Author	The-Red-Pillar
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	October 24, 2013 11:05 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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