Becoming a man both males and females have no choice but to respect.

2013-11-08T22:13:59+00:00

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die_igel · 2013-11-08T23:48:50+00:00

Don't start a fight for that reason. It's childish. It's a different story if he's physically threatening you or someone you care about.

You need to find a way to express your feelings without sounding like you're whining. Oftentimes if someone says something to me directly that's hurtful, unhelpful, unproductive, or seemingly-designed to provoke me, I might respond calmly with, "Why did you think it was (funny/helpful/productive/etc.) to say that?"

You just sort of have to point out the elephant in the room without appearing to be afraid of the elephant. If you have quality friends that'll be more than enough. If they think you're stupid for doing it, well, then who wants friends who don't care about how their actions and words land on you? Those are shitty friends by definition.

Can you give an example of something this person once said that you felt was disrespectful and some of the surrounding context? It's important to know why the person is saying what they're saying.

For example, if you asked a question and this person responded with, "What kind of idiot would ask a question like that?", I might respond with a sigh and calmly say, "Why would you say that? Does it make you feel smarter?"

If the person isn't a total ass and you two actually have a relationship that he values, I might instead respond with something more like, "John, why would you say that? It makes me feel shitty when you do."

2013-11-09T01:31:10+00:00

Get over your childish idea that people "owe" you respect. You will generally only get as much respect back as you give yourself, but respect is always a choice, and you will always find people who don't respect you, for whatever reason. If a friend is giving you a ribalding, stop taking yourself so seriously and laugh about it. If someone tells you something that makes you genuinely uncomfortable, grow some balls and tell them that. Fighting your fucking friend would just cement you as an insecure little boy with something to prove.

CptConfused · 2013-11-09T08:52:01+00:00

Ask yourself why your even hanging out with these guys.

Make new friends. I don't know how old you are but if your young then go to college meet people and do something you like.

I grew apart from the group who were kicking my ass, I've got newer better friends I have more in common with making me a whole lot more confident. These guys are holding you down. I still feel the anxiety today sometimes, its hard to get over the paranoia of when your ass is getting kicked next or "if I say/do that they'll kick my ass"

Leave them. You don't need them. Go to school.

I've grown apart from my old group, they're wasters and they're still in the same place. Now they call me begging for time I won't give them because its a waste and so are they, when I do give them time, I give zero fucks what they think, the shoe is on the other foot, I have the power, I do the cussing and telling off. Because they know I have the power to just walk away from them and never answer the phone again so they know to walk the line carefully with me. I still don't value them.

I hope this story help, and please take this advice.

HappyJerk · 2013-11-09T20:33:15+00:00

the way you become somebody "both males and females have no choice but to respect" is by showing that their words absolutely not affect you whatsoever. When somebody says something douchey to you you just look at them and say "what"? Once you show it really doesn't affect you at all, you've hit God mode.

2013-11-10T18:35:19+00:00

You don't have to fight, but do your best to give off the impression, through your tone of voice and body language, that you will engage physically if people pick on you. If someone talks shit, stand up straight and stare at them.

jetlag84 · 2013-11-09T00:13:02+00:00

It really depends on what being "ragged on" means. Friends fuck with eachother, make jokes, play the dozens. If that's all it is, you need to learn how to not take yourself so seriously, and not get offended by any of it. This is where "agree and amplify" actually works outside of seduction. If you have thin skin and don't know how to take a joke, people zone in on that and just go a million times harder. But if you are getting cracked on and you know how to laugh at yourself, it pretty much stops there. Then you can flip it back on that person and it's their turn. That's how friends interact sometimes.

On the other hand, if being "ragged on" in this case means someone you know is just straight up calling you a bitch, a punk, physically pushing you around in all seriousness.............yeah, fight them.

You didn't make it too clear which one it is, though. Don't punch someone who is just making friendly jokes about you. That will have the opposite effect of what you want. You'll look like a complete psychopath who REALLY can't take a joke.

Mr-E-Relevont · 2013-11-08T22:34:41+00:00

I'm guessing you're pretty young. fight the bloke. make sure you win though and rub it in forevermore

Title	Becoming a man both males and females have no choice but to respect.
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Date	November 8, 2013 10:06 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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