First time poster, long time lurker in this sub. I've picked up many little pointers along the way from you guys, so I thought giving back to the community is the right thing to do, as some of it may be useful information to others.

I'll try my best to format this correctly, with the story in one straight time line, followed by pointing out the specific things that made all the difference in the world to me.

It started last Sunday. I work in a restaurant and recently transferred to a new location. The girl I'm talking about was also fairly new to that location. We worked together for a shift, with just a bit of flirting along way. At the end of my shift, as I'm on my way out, she asks what I was doing later. I say that I wasn't sure, so she invites me out for some drinks with her and her other friend later that evening. I say "maybe", pull out my phone and say "here, I'll get back to you" (A). She dials it and I leave. Later on, I text her saying that I was gonna pass but will make it up to her. It was all good. Now that we had already started a text convo, it was easy to continue, going from work stuff to holiday plans to silly randomness and of course more flirting.

Two days later, a bunch of us were working together and were talking about going out for drinks later, but most of us weren't able to get out until later on and didn't wanna rush out to try and beat last call. I suggested my place, mentioned I had tons of booze and room to crash. It ended up being 8 of us (3 girls 5 guys) going back to my house at 1:30am. Fast forward through a really good night of mingling and all that and we are down to just her and I being the last ones awake at around 6:00am. Long story short, some talking, more obvious flirting and then kino started happening. About an hour later we decide to go to bed. I say "you could crash in the spare room but I lost count of how many bodies are in there lol, my bed's up for grabs, that is, if I can trust you" (B) she said "me? I should be asking you the same thing lol". As we're getting into bed, she says "I don't sleep with any bottoms on, I hope that's okay with you." I heckled her and said "That's funny, neither do I, but hey, you're the one that can't be trusted not me lol" A minute later, needless to say, we're both naked in bed.

I was facing her and she was facing away (spooning) Almost right away, grinding started happening, which turned into hands running everywhere, which turned into her turning around and starting a make out session. Soon I get on top of her, do all the neck/ear/shoulder/chest kissing/biting/licking etc. She then grabs my junk and I do the same etc. This goes on for a while then I go for insertion, and she does a half roll-over and stops me. This is where it gets interesting. She says "I dunno if we should do this, we work together, I don't want it to get weird" then I ask "are you sure, because I didn't think it would get weird personally" and she says "yeah let's take a break". So I get off of her and say "okay... ya know, you're a cool chick, and you're lucky I respect ya". She says "what do you mean", and I say "well because if I didn't, then I would probably seduce you so bad and make you want me, but I don't need to, I'm okay with this" (C) Silence happens for about 10 seconds, right before she throws the covers off the bed, rolls me on my back, and rides me like I've never been ridden before. (side note, the type of girl that asks to be choked, yesss) Fast forward a little bit, and we both finish. We literally both fell asleep right then and there, then from what could've been anywhere from 15 minutes to 2 hours later for all I know, she starts running her hands all over the place, and I do the same, and well, round 2 happens. She leaves my place a couple hours later.

The following day, we see each other at work and everything is totally fine. We casually act like nothing happened aside from the smiles here and there. A few days go by then some flirting starts up again at work, but this time I'm much more discrete about it, which I could tell was throwing her off a little bit. Then on Friday, she texts "you didn't tell anybody did you?" And I say "nope, I was gonna ask you the same thing but assumed that you wouldn't anyway". Then we talk about the night vaguely and about how fun it was. When the timing is right, I say "I gotta be honest, a part of me was thinking 'god I hope this youngin isn't falling for me' after that crazy night, because it's happen a lot in the past, and the signs were there and I just don't have time for anything right now" (D). She says "really, that's funny cause I was thinking the same thing about you, so random!", then we laugh it off, and I say "it's too bad though, you're cute and all, and I probably coulda taught you a thing or two along the way lol" then she says "oh yeah, like what?" and I say "oh, it doesn't matter anymore, we're just buddies now, right? lol" and then we kinda go off topic.

Another few days go by, and we arrive to last night. She texts me "so I'm kinda curious to know how I could 'learn a thing or two'. Should probably fill me in or show me, you know?" then I say "show you huh? I was pretty sure that opportunity expired lol" then she says "yeah, but I just didn't know we were on the same page really, and now I do. It'll be fun ;)". Needless to say, I think I just made a bed buddy (for now), and, well, she'll actually be here any minute :D

NOW, you may have noticed the (letters) I put above, these are the points I wanna make:

(A) Getting a number should just be that easy. Don't even ask, don't make it seem like it's any kind of big deal, just "here" and pull the phone out and give it to them. It's never felt more natural in my life.

(B) Always make it seem like they want you more than you want them, no matter what. I was acting like I knew where I stood but had to worry about her making a move. It's fun and effective.

(C) This one kinda has two points: 1) Cockiness/confidence is a factor here because I'm saying that I can do what I want, but simply chose not to... 2) I like to think of this as a form of last minute withdrawl, even though it was more her than me that caused it, but I went ahead with it. Something inside her flipped and she wanted it more than ever once I was completely passive about the whole thing. I made it seem like it was okay to not get some, basically the opposite of neediness.

(D) This one is similar to "B" but plays with demonstrating high value a little more, because I'm saying that girls have fallen for me many times in the past, and at the same time saying that I'm not that easily available to her, which I'm sure had something to do with her wanting to know more about what "thing or two she can learn" lol

My apologies, this ended up being WAY LONGER than I expected. That being said, I hope that some of you learned a thing or two in the process and are able to make sense of a similar experience or are inspired to try out something new.

Any comments, questions, or criticism is welcome, obviously. :)

edit: grammar