Eye contact changed the game for me

Link_GR · 2013-12-16T14:43:27+00:00

An easy way to train this is to make eye contact with strangers just walking down the street. If you generally don't look threatening (aggressive look, intent stare) and just casually look them in the eyes as you pass them by, no one will mind and it will make it a LOT easier to make long eye contact during conversation.

DrRokit · 2013-12-16T12:49:34+00:00

I used to have a massive problem with eye contact, but forced myself to look people in the eye when talking to them. Since doing that, I've found that people's reactions to me have changed radically. Now, whenever I speak to somebody who doesn't make eye contact, it makes me cringe that I used to behave like them. Not only does it make the person look insecure, it also makes the look downright rude in some cases. They can be the nicest person in the room, but lack of eye contact makes them difficult to be around.

iLoginToComment · 2013-12-16T16:24:27+00:00

ProTip : One can pick up women simply with the proper eye contact. Ever heard the line "Look at the way s/he looks at her/him" ? That is proper eye contact, it says everything, you do not need to say much of anything if you have proper eye contact down.

WoodyHarrlesonsAgent · 2013-12-16T20:53:52+00:00

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weightliftin4life · 2013-12-16T18:28:58+00:00

Sometimes it's hard, but try to make them break it first

michaelasawka · 2013-12-16T22:07:26+00:00

ADHD can make it hard to make eye contact? I fairly recently noticed I have a hard time keeping eye contact with anyone. My boyfriend pointed it out to me one day. He said, "You make it really hard to talk to you when you never look me in the face." I had never really noticed before so I stared paying more attention to where I'm looking when I'm talking. I realized I couldn't talk to anyone while looking them in the eye! I've tried correcting it but it's been really difficult for me so far. I like the idea of trying to look strangers in the eye for practice.

PhilthyMcNasty · 2013-12-16T22:59:06+00:00

I have a question that might tie in to this topic.

What difference do you notice when looking into someone's eyes and remaining fixed on one eye, versus the other eye, versus switching between the two? Is there an established link? I notice it in other people, but I don't know how it makes me feel or how it might be received.

davidofderbyshire · 2013-12-17T01:22:17+00:00

What treatment are you getting for your adhd?

johnnynoname12 · 2013-12-16T14:52:05+00:00

I should have used the old "I have ADHD" defense when I was too nervous to look a girl I liked in the eyes.....i wish I thought of it first...good one, OP

Title	Eye contact changed the game for me
Author	WoodyHarrlesonsAgent
Upvotes	104
Comments	31
Date	December 16, 2013 12:13 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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