The most successful people are those that divide their live up into chapters, so starting 2014 you guys should start making changes in your life.

EDIT: I know I'm gonna get a lot of downvotes for "get good at beating people up" but please read it with an open mind before you dismiss me as an alpha douche and blindly downvote me.

1) Get good at beating people up– Ok, ok, ok. I know I sound like alpha male douchebag meathead asshole here, but the fact is that evolution has programmed women to be biologically attracted to the alpha male of the tribe. And the alpha male is essentially the ape that dominates the other apes because he can kick their ass. In our modern society men no longer struggle for dominance by fighting, but a “good-looking” guy to women is still just a man who can fight well. A lot of guys suggest lifting to become more attractive and confident, and that is partly true, but lifting doesn’t get you all the way there. Women are attracted to lean, fit, athletic men that are also physically imposing – and the best way to develop these traits is by engaging in some type of combat sport like boxing or MMA. A lot of guys just focus on lifting and develop freakishly large muscles that are often useless and out of proportion to the rest of their bodies. These guys can successfully attract some girls, but eventually the girls’ biology will tell her that he is not exactly what she is looking for. In essence, Navy SEALs or cagefighters are more attractive than bodybuilders.

Here is the good news – a lot of guys whine that they are “ugly.” That is not logically possible – if you are alive in 2013 that means that for the past 100,000 years of human history there has been a woman in every generation that wanted to fuck somebody with your genes and have his baby. So, you are not genetically broken (unless you have some huge deformity). Your real problem is probably that you are not athletic enough. If you lift and get good at fighting you can become “good looking.”

Another advantage of getting good at beating people up is that your confidence increases. I’m not saying you should fight anybody – you definitely shouldn’t fight anybody outside of a controlled environment - but being good at fighting causes a chemical reaction in your brain that causes you to SEE YOURSELF as the alpha male. You’ll feel less intimidated by other guys and you will feel healthier and more energetic. But once again – DON’T FIGHT OR THREATEN PEOPLE – that’s just douchy.

2) Dress like a CEO – When I say “dress like a CEO” I don’t mean “wear business suits and drab clothing all the time.” I mean “dress like you run shit and/or own the place.” What place? Wherever you are going. If you go to clubs a lot, dress like you own the club. If you go to the beach a lot, dress like a champion surfer. If you’re a hippy, dress like the king of the hippies (or the CEO of the hippie company). Whatever you do, make it clear that you are the best version of that aesthetically. If you don’t know how a CEO dresses, find yourself a male fashion role model. Personally, I like to model my style after Rameet Chalwa, the CEO of Fueled, but you can do whatever you want. http://stylelikeu.com/profiles-2/closets/rameet-chawla/

Another important aspect of looking like a CEO is that you should always be neatly groomed (even if you have a beard), “clean” and hygienic. You should also talk and act like a CEO.

3) Do something creative or artistic – I can’t think of anything better at helping your game than doing something creative. It helps you spiritually, emotionally, and it is meditative, because you can focus all your thoughts and emotions on one thing. I am a high-powered lawyer at one of the best law firms in America, and I also do stand up comedy on the side. Even though I work at a very prestigious firm with some of the best companies in the world, and I am basically a nobody as far as comedy goes, I find girls (even professional women) are much more interested in my comedy than my job. When I brag about my legal accomplishments, I sound like a douche, but when I brag about my comedy accomplishments (like opening for somebody famous) they love it. Doing something artistic also plugs you into your local city’s art scene, which means you will meet lots of girls and you will always have something fun to do at night. Plus, I never need to ask a girl on a date ever again – I can just invite them to one of my shows.

Now, you are probably scared of doing something artistic because you will say “oh I suck” or “I have no talent.” Here’s the thing – we live in a very judgmental, critical, “hater” culture where talentless fucks who have never done anything spend all day on the internet judging and criticizing people that are putting themselves out there. You need to not give a fuck and just do it. Even though I am a pretty good comedian (I have been on TV a few times and opened for famous people) people are still most impressed that I even have the courage to get up there in front of people and expose myself to judgment rather than the quality of my material. To get girls you have to not give a fuck, and nothing shows that more by making art, even if you know it will be bad. And if you are truly ashamed of how bad it is – just don’t show anybody! If a girl asks to see it just say “my art is very personal to me and I’d rather not show anybody” – what is more mysterious than that? And here is the thing: YOU WILL BECOME GOOD. One of the lies we are fed in our society is that some people have this magical thing called “talent” that you are born with. That’s horseshit - there is no such thing as talent. All great artists are great because they worked hard, and you are no exception. If you spent two hours a week on your art by the end of the year you will be decent and after 3 years you will be amazing.

4) Engage in some kind of spiritual practice – Here is the one thing nobody in the PUA community wants to talk about: The emotions of sex, love, attachment, anxiety and rejection are some of the most insanely strong emotions a human being can experience and you are lowering yourself into an emotional sharkpit by doing PUA. In fact, I would say that most people that are stuck in shitty relationships are afraid to leave because they can’t bear the thought of exposing themselves to rejection and awkward social situations. Because PUA elicits such strong emotions, you need some kind of spiritual practice in your life OR YOU WILL GO CRAZY. You need something like prayer, meditation, chanting or other practices to ground you, give you hope, and help you control your crazy emotions that are hired-wired into your biology through thousands of years of evolution. On top of that you need to create for yourself a good circle of friends, family, and social activities to keep you feeling loved and active and positive. I would personally advise you to not become “religious” but to pick bits and pieces from various philosophies that suit you the best.

PUA artists always dismiss the strength of emotions and say banal things like “man the fuck up” or “just go out and meet more chicks, bro.” But the reality is that oneitis regularly ruins people’s lives. I don’t care who you are – you know at least one guy who has had his life ruined by a woman. And you are not immune to that just because you are in the PUA community and you read Models by Mark Manson. You need to figure out a way of controlling your emotions or you will go nuts. A lot of guys are wary of dating “sluts” – this is because oftentimes a woman who goes through lots of different relationships in a short time sometimes loses control of her emotions and becomes prone to mood swings and erratic behavior (not to mention depression and anxiety). That is no different from men – if you keep exposing your heart and getting rejected you may end up going off the rails.

5) Start making your life awesome – My mom is really big into nutrition and dieting and she told me a very important thing once. She said that if you want to cut shitty foods out of your diet, you don’t say to yourself “I am no longer going to eat X shitty food” – it never works. Instead, you should say to yourself “From now on, I am going to eat more Y good food.” You see, it is very hard for you to repress your emotions or deny yourself the things you want – but what you CAN do is to replace those shitty things with good things. If you are doing awesome stuff in your life, you will naturally forget about the shitty things you used to want. The best way to become outcome independent is to have so much awesome stuff going on in your life that it no longer matters to how you how a particular girl treated you. Your life should be awesome from the moment you wake up to the moment you go back to bed. Even if your job sucks, find a way to make it awesome. If you work at McDonald’s become the best damn fry cook McDonald’s has ever seen and make it fun for yourself. If you engage in activities that make you feel depressed or make you think about shitty things then stop doing them and replace them with awesome things.

6) Listen to music that FUCKING ROCKS – In my humble opinion, the best way for a man to unleash his “alpha” emotions is to listen to some hard rock, like Nirvana, Pearl Jam, tool, or 80’s metal. There is nothing more manly than that. You may prefer Hip Hop or electronic or something but it’s not the same. If you don’t understand the appeal of this song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kr8-E8may2Y., keep listening to it until you understand the emotion behind it and let it wash over you. This song is a religious experience and if you commune with it you will enter a new phase of alphaness. Henry Rollins was right – the best way to get over oneitis is to listen to some blistering hard rock.

7) Start creating good habits – It takes about 60 days for a habit to form. Starting January 1, start a new habit every month. It can be something tiny, like drinking a glass of water right when you wake up. Just make sure the habit is unbreakable and you do it every day. This was you become more disciplined and confident. You can then move on to bigger and better habits.

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