How should we be vulnerable (according to Mark Manson)?

Pit_Sweat · 2014-01-28T21:29:52+00:00

My understanding of Mark's definition of vulnerability is basically making your intentions known and allowing yourself the possibility of being rejected, as opposed to trying to "trick" a girl into bed with you or making it hard for the girl to say no. Putting yourself on the line is respectable, confident, and masculine, and that's what ultimately works.

As for my personal experience - this strategy is one I use and the only one I've ever used. I don't profess to be some PUA god but it gets me decent results. Enough so that I'm not sitting at home lonely and frustrated on a Friday night at least. I'm not afraid to chase girls, ask them directly on dates, or go for a kiss, and I don't employ BS tactics to try and "get girls to chase me" or whatever. I don't worry about "demonstrating highest value" or "showing up the AMOGS" or anything like that - I just do me. Do I get shot down? Sure, all the time, but I don't need all these psychological defense mechanisms to deal with it.

That's my understanding of vulnerability - not too sure if that's what you're asking though.

PowerSeductionWar · 2014-01-29T01:55:03+00:00

it's like...

you get a girlfriend, and you allow yourself to get attached to her instead of being detached.

or

you go to work where nobody really likes you instead of quitting to avoid any shit you may have to deal with.

or

you think somebody doesn't like you, and instead of trying to form some sort of defense for anything he might do, you just go on as if nothing is wrong.

I think Mark is just trying to tell us to stop expecting/preparing to fail and just let the chips fall where they may.

If you set out expecting the worst, you won't act or perform your best and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

ie. You get a new girlfriend and you are afraid she is going to hurt or leave you so you get detached to avoid getting hurt and because you are detached and distant, she picks up on that and eventually leaves or hurts you. Do you think it might have turned out differently if you actually tried instead of putting up that little shield of yours?

puntingbaxter · 2014-01-28T21:23:47+00:00

you should always be vulnerable

but I may be interpreting what Manson meant a different way than you did

I took it as you should be honest with yourself at all times, even with women

as we know the truth can hurt

how did you interpret it?

Title	How should we be vulnerable (according to Mark Manson)?
Author	presariopresario
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Date	January 28, 2014 9:09 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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