Do you find it uneasy drinking coffee alone or going alone at a club?

SinSlayer · 2015-01-09T21:13:19+00:00

You have far too many fucks to give...

fgsguedes · 2015-01-09T21:08:57+00:00

I have no problems at all going out alone.

There was a time I had no one to hang out with and there was some things I would like to do (going to cinema, concerts, dinner, ...) so I eventually realized that if I don't start going by myself it was going to take a long time for me to really enjoy things that I like.

At the beginning I felt exactly as you described as people feeling sorry for me to be alone but I replaced that with a "fuck it, I'm enjoying myself" and I really was. Now a days I still go out alone a lot and I just don't care anymore what people think.

I think it's good to go out alone sometimes. You're there just because of you, if you ever change your mind and wanna leave or go to somewhere else you just go. No one to ask if they wanna change plans, no one to wait for or to be waiting for you, it's just you and what you feel doing.

Also, this video helped me in some hard times.

SpicyCooker · 2015-01-09T21:24:58+00:00

Confidence is the most important thing in life. Get it! One way or another. Tell yourself you are a 'bad mother fucker' every day.

"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude.

nominally · 2015-01-09T21:28:17+00:00

You need to internalize the mentality that it's an oppressive societal construct that makes a person feel uncomfortable enjoying time on their own out in public. Keep pushing yourself to do it. This will build confidence. Whenever I met a girl, be it a bar, a venue, or a coffee place, I always felt "in my element".

Mike_The_Bike · 2015-01-09T23:05:17+00:00

Coffee alone absolutely not bring a book with you maybe a magazine and you're pretty comfy.

I've been going out alone since I discovered the PUA community going on 4 years ago and didn't have anyone to wing with so I went out dealt with the "awkwardness" and realized it was no big deal. made a video talking about what I learned going out solo that might help.

Just FYI I got way more positive and impressed responses to me being out solo especially from the ladies because to them they would never consider the thought.

stiffman · 2015-01-09T23:16:49+00:00

I don't mind doing most things alone. Except for going to clubs. Solo clubbing is weird.

UnlimitedFlour · 2015-01-09T23:50:43+00:00

Coffee shops alone aren't bad as long as you have something to keep you busy like a book. If you've got a purpose for being there, then you're not so much 'alone' as 'reading your book'. Then, if you see someone you like, you can approach them and say "Hey, I was just reading my book but I couldn't help but notice you".

As for going to nightclubs alone, I could never get into it. For me, the music is always too loud to have a proper conversation. It's much better to go to a bar where it's quieter, meet someone, then move onto the club.

ShirosaNeko · 2015-01-10T02:33:19+00:00

I have mixed feelings about this.

I live in a very small town, but I'm moving to a big one. I went out solo at both places.

In the small town I have had very little success. People aren't used to other people coming to you and most of them will judge you. It's not really easy to start a conversation with strangers there except you're lucky and meet one of the few openminded people of the town.

However, in the big town it was easy as fuck. Far more people are openminded and even are happy when you start talking with them. They would never think about you being a douche or strange, because you are approaching them. Of course those people with prejudices are there too, however, not as much as in the small town.

Another problem I encountered in the small town was, when I started to learn how to approach strangers, I naturally acted awkwardly. (what can you do, when you just started learning...) However, since the city is small and girls often have a big social network, the word gets spread fast.

Summarizing, I wouldn't dare to care what other people think about me, but in the small city I don't really try to approach solo. I go out with a few friends, so that I can go back to them and not seem like an unsocialable person. That has worked best for me.

In the big city I do not care at all. I could just go to anyone at any time.

Title	Do you find it uneasy drinking coffee alone or going alone at a club?
Author	presariopresario
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	January 9, 2015 8:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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