Hi,
so, i have been actively trying to date for the past 6 months. i never had a date before. i never had a GF. only had sex with sexual workers. i'm 29M, a business man, , work in tech. i'm a nerd, but a social one, as the business requires it. i could finally overcome my anxiety at approaching women and now i do it as like i do it at business environments. My disability is that i use an oxygen tank, 24/7. even so, my mobility is not restricted and my body is average. i'm lifting since a couple of months and i see the changes, but they are not awesome. I dress well and clean, usually with classy shirts and nice colors combinations, as i need to be well dress for work anyway.
the things is, even if i tried to have dates with women i meet on meetups and social events plus all my tinder matches (i have around 5 to 10 matches a month, from HB6 to HB10). Not gonna lie, i don't want to go out with a fatty or a really ugly person, an HB6-7 is my minimum requeriment. still i could never pull out a date. i can easily talk with any of the women, with any background, as the kind of company i run does R+D so i know a lot of things and i have a lot of experiences to tell. i tried to talk a lot, or talk very little (like to know us a bit, and go directly to logistic) with the same results. people i meet in RL, they never want to see me one to one in a date context. tinder matches, i could get personal numbers and all their other social media easily, but they never want to go out. i tried different kinds of venues, from fancy restaurants, to simple malls hangouts, coffees, different times at day etc.. nothing worked out.
i feel that i cannot inspire attraction. i believe is for the tank. maybe it is a complex, but i only see pity in their end reactions. i cannot get "flirty" responses from them at all. and like the dates never happen, i can't try anything except texting. i'm surprised that they don't want to go to a date, not even for a free meal (tried this just to confirm if the disability is the mayor turn off)
i'm open to suggestion, maybe i can do something different? maybe i'm not seeing a different way to approach this? maybe is a lost cause?
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