Is there any way to ask a girl if she's politely saying no or interested but actually unable to go out without coming off as clingy?

OrangeCantRhyme · 2014-02-05T04:25:34+00:00

You asked her out twice, she gave excuses. That is your sign she isn't interested and you aren't going to be having a relationship.

By the sounds of it, she's someone you've known for a while or are stuck in some sort of work relationship. She realizes that if she absolutely rejects you it's going to be awkward, she she's being nice by making excuses. Respect that.

Sky-Might-fall · 2014-02-05T04:22:57+00:00

No man. This post itself sounds desperate. You need to go for other girls, quit having oneitus with this one. My rule of thumb is that the first excuse is legit. The second one may or may not be. And the third one is probably bullshit. It's all up to your judgement, treat it as such.

skulldrinker · 2014-02-05T13:27:06+00:00

I've had this. In real life - runs across the road to hug me and chat for 10 minutes. Text her after to properly hang out - takes a day to 'agree' then stands me up without notice on the day. It's just easy enough to be nice or polite in person where there's no risk or expectations. If they're going to be in a situation where they have to let you escalate or they have to reject you, that's what they're trying to avoid.

SupALupRT · 2014-02-06T00:28:32+00:00

THink about it this way? How do YOU decline a invite from someone your into? You say "I can't do it tonight but how about x night?" usually right? If a girls into you she'll find a way to hang with you.

Title	Is there any way to ask a girl if she's politely saying no or interested but actually unable to go out without coming off as clingy?
Author	Jamo142
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	February 5, 2014 4:17 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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