How to deal with women that want to take control?

HappyJerk · 2014-02-14T14:49:34+00:00

Here's the thing: i am convinced that women BIOLOGICALLY need a man to lead. So if a women insists on taking control that means she is either not interested in you like that, OR she is used to being in charge and having a man that will actually take charge will send her pussy tingles through the roof.

One problem that a lot of guys have (and you seem to have) is that they think that dates and hangouts are all about the guy impressing the girl and making her happy. FUCK THAT. For a date to be successful, you, as a man, have to be a little cranky (I'm actually going to write a blog post on this when I have the time). You have to let her know that you're not going to do shit that you don't find fun. You need her to worry about if YOU are having fun and are into her, not the other way. Let's look at this girl that told you she gets "angry" when she's hungry. Can you imagine her saying that if she was on a date with Brad Pitt? No! She would eat shit and pretend she liked it.

The only time you should acquiesce in what she wants to do is if she really hates the thing you proposed. So if you say "let's go to MacDonalds" and she's like "I think MacDonald's disgusting" then suggest somewhere else. But if she has no strong emotions on it, then you choose. You have to be a benevolent dictator: you make the decisions, but you also keep in mind the opinions of the regular people. It sounds like you may suck a little bit at planning shit: girls aren't going to want to walk a million miles to eat something, etc...

Ok, so back to your original question: how do you deal with a girl who wants to take control? You leave. You don't say anything explicit. But you kind of linger and act distinterested and be like "ok well I'm tired I have to go home." She will immediately wonder what's wrong. The center of gravity has now shifted to you. It is no longer about making HER happy - it's about making you happy.

aalewis____ · 2014-02-14T07:17:58+00:00

let her have her way with some things but stand your ground and lead in others

RandianHero · 2014-02-14T08:19:19+00:00

The way I look at it, I'm flexible and easy going enough for this kind of thing to not matter to me 99% of the time. If they're truly dead set on a particular thing, it's rare that I care enough to demand something else. Truth be told, though, it's equally rare that I ever meet a girl who's that decisive or demanding. But if there's an option that I really want to go with, I'm persuasive enough that we'll end up doing it my way.

In short: be flexible, but don't be afraid to assert yourself if you truly give a fuck about the situation at hand.

Banana_Hat · 2014-02-14T17:31:32+00:00

Let them. I hate indecisive people and if she knows what she wants let her have it. It's less effort on date planing on your part witch would let you focus on enjoying yourself rather than worrying about what to do next and what she would enjoy. Personally I think it's kinda sexy for her to take control.

Kiwispam84 · 2014-02-15T06:13:13+00:00

I recently went out with a girl who was the most energetic go-getter I've ever met. She told me to pick a place to meet up, but it was crowded, so we met up with some of her friends at another place. And then another, and another. I kept escalating, and by the end of the night we were making out. The key is being confident and comfortable in going along with her, being flexible and fine with changes. Don't 'give in' and go along with what she wants to do because you don't know what you want to do. Trying to force her to do what you want to do, and making her uncomfortable in the process, won't work either.

Title	How to deal with women that want to take control?
Author	rusty84
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	February 14, 2014 6:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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