How do you show enough interest with body language, but not come off as over invested?

sharkacolypse · 2014-08-12T19:41:53+00:00

Over invested is more like you're always texting her, you respond right away, you talk about your future together, etc. It's things you do to show how emotionally involved you are. It's how bad she thinks you're going to take it when she says it's not going to happen.

Showing interest with body language is different. It shows intent, not investment. It shows that you want something and you're going to do something about it where you can, not over the phone hoping that your emotions match hers.

Two things that are key with body language: mirroring and touching. If you're both standing and she holds her hands a certain way, match it. If you do something, notice if she does it too. Mirroring is a powerful mating trait that has evolved in humans. The other, touching, brings a more intimate element to the table, and if escalated properly, will be what seals the deal most of the time.

UASHIT · 2014-08-12T18:05:08+00:00

But you are interested!

You open your hand like you're waiting for her to give you change, and you tell her (don't ask), "give me your hand". You don't care. You take the hands of women like it's no thing. She's just another girl!

If she gives you her hand, think of something silly to say. (it doesn't matter what.) She already likes you, and is OK with you obviously doing game on her.

If she doesn't, you either did it way too soon, or she's not interested in you; and you move on to someone else, because there are so many women that wish they could be approached by someone as great as you.

sixsidepentagon · 2014-08-12T18:36:46+00:00

KINO

KINO OR DIE

joshsway · 2014-08-12T18:06:53+00:00

eye contact and kino .. I rarely verbalize kino as UASHIT said, I just do it, but either way is fine.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2014-08-13T03:41:19+00:00

Don't be over invested. Seriously. It's damn simple in concept, but hard to implement.

If you're simply not over-investing, then you won't across as over-invested.

Title	How do you show enough interest with body language, but not come off as over invested?
Author	rusty84
Upvotes	31
Comments	12
Date	August 12, 2014 4:49 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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