How did I fall so far..

RandianHero · 2014-02-18T23:18:02+00:00

Just think of it like the sequel to a video game when the hero has to start over without all the fancy items he got in the last game. Start with the basics and work your way back up. You know this stuff; you'll get there again.

Atti1a · 2014-02-18T23:24:56+00:00

Sack up bro. Just do it. Practice, practice, practice. There is no shortcut. Start from scratch and work your way up. Dont try and be sometthing that youre not, because it will be seen and you will look foolish.

And be ok with failure. Each time you fail, calibrate and the next time you should get further. Until eventually, you have the routine down. The more you do it, the better you get and the higher your confidence will be.

Dont get down on yourself, dont sit and cry about it, dont feel bad. Just take the situation like a man, act like someone with balls and you will find that you do in fact have balls.

HappyJerk · 2014-02-19T00:24:10+00:00

Here is the problem: when you're in a LTR you get really emotionally connected and comfortable with a person. Shit gets easy. But in the dating world people aren't emotionally invested in you so you have to realize that people will be flaky, hostile, weird, dismissive, etc... It's harder for guys because girls take longer to get emotionally invested than guys do, and you're used to being emotionally invested. You have to realize that you are back on the battlefield.

Here is a resource: playersjourney.net

Exodus111 · 2014-02-19T12:54:07+00:00

My fucking ex is full court pressing me to get back together

And there it is. You dont have closure, it has messed up your emotional response. Make it very very clear to your ex that its over, and no slipping back into one night stands with her. Then it should be easier to move on.

readonlyuser · 2014-02-19T02:58:39+00:00

Make sure that you're not supplanting sex with porn or masturbating too much. You have to genuinely need to get laid. Having that real fire lit under your ass will be motivating. Eventually, your desire and arousal will overcome any objections you could come up with. Sometimes, horniness and intent can trump lousy inner game.

Obviously, you should also be working on your inner game, as well (e.g. investing your time and emotions in productive ways, rewarding yourself, honoring your thoughts and emotions).

Title	How did I fall so far..
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Date	February 18, 2014 11:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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