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[–]HappyJerk 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're going to fuck it up. It's going nowhere.
Now go out and enjoy yourself.
[–]seddittips 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks, glad to say it went somewhere because of what you said. Just enjoying my time, at first it was nerve-racking like any other first date may be but all I could do was be confident and go for it since those nerves usually go away after some time together.
[–]ThePUA_Baddie 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Standard date protocol. Have fun, joke, laugh, if you're going to the place together maybe try some escalation like hold her hand. If you meet with her there be sure to escalate at some point during the date, sit close to her. Don't do anything that seems forced, whatever you do make sure you believe in it. If shit is going well kiss close and try to invite her back to your place.
[–]seddittips 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh i'm escalating right off the bat since it's a great opportunity to, hugs at first and maybe hand leading through the door. There's no better opportunity to sneak in some kino like that imo. I just dislike when my nerves get to me on first dates, last time I had a first date I don't even remember but I wasn't the person I am today. I don't get as much anxiety talking as before so maybe that has changed. We'll see on the day of.
A lot of kino from both sides and I really did enjoy the date, couldn't have went better imo. Did kiss close and that was it, I didn't want to push any further and at least keep her wanting more.
[–]RandianHero 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It's just a normal date, son. Relax. The worst that can happen is it goes poorly and you're exactly where you were before.
[–]seddittips 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You're right, now that I think of it like that. There's nothing to lose. I guess I'm just worried of it going bad but again it doesn't matter.
[–]NobodygoingNowhere 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Regardless of what happens your better off than you were. This will be a new experience to learn from. Best of luck mate have fun!
Thanks, it went great! Not many moments where we didn't say anything. As for falling for the girl? I'm not sure, she seems like a great girl but it might take a few more dates to decide if I want to continue. I've never really dated like this so it's really an all new experience for me. The only GF's I had was from school and those were on a different level.
[–]CPMartin 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't do what I did on my first date in a while, which is get half pissed and kept having beers with the girl to the point where I was pissed and she was not. So if you need a little dutch courage before you go keep it minimum.
[–]denart4 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How did you do that with Tinder? can you give some more info? Do you directly ask her out or?
[–]seddittips 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
So at first when I got tinder I didn't take it serious, I joked around and came on very strong. Sexually joking a lot, doesn't really work with a lot of girls unless you get girls that are DTF already and you're not going to get those unless you have incredible features and aesthetic. You're gonna run into a lot of boring girls who responds with one or two words but once in a while you'll get one that responds well, those are the ones you can get somewhere with. Keep in mind in my opinion I'm not super hot and have girls melting over me, I only have 2 pictures and both aren't even that great of a picture but they show my face, smiling, and with other people (I cropped them out though to not have them guessing). I tried tinder with 1 picture, doesn't work.. have at least 2, they could be 2 bad ones like I have.
I use to have 1 picture but after adding a second one matches came up way more often. I can't imagine what it'll be like if I had amazing pictures. Anyways I open up with something funny, I try to pick something from their profile and if there's nothing i'll just make some generic thing up and be confident and funny. The conversations on tinder always lead towards number closing on there, my goal is to get the number and get off tinder. In my opinion it allows you and the girl to be more personal, stand out from the other tinder guys who is talking exclusively on tinder.
Now when you move to number, continue to be funny and TEASE (I think it's VERY important to tease a bit), just get to know her a bit to allow her to be more comfortable but always aim to go on a date. Keep texting and there will eventually be an opportunity where you can say something like, "Now this conversation would go great over some drinks." See how she responds and close. It's quite easy. It depends what your intentions are, only looking for DTF girls? They'll be the ones who responds well to very sexual jokes and sometimes they're they ones who will open first. Want a more normal casual date girl? Get to know each other first and if you're funny you'll get far.
I think I gave you more than you bargained for with this response. lol. Let me know if there's anything else specific you wanted to know.
[–]denart4 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Whoa man you seem to be really smooth. I find it hard to be funny/confident or tease over text because you don't see the person and sarcasm and shit can be misunderstood. And about a topic to talk about, with what kinds of things do you come up? I mean, you have never seen the person and know nothing about them unless you interviewed her over text. Also what age are you/the girl?
I don't want to disclose the exact age but we're in our mid 20s. I've been told I'm good with words, had a girl question if she should meet me because I'm too good with words and sound like a player. I really don't see it, it might be natural but I honestly just say what comes to my mind. I also read some other people's lines and make it my own, I use it just for fun not necessarily to guide me. Use emoticons or smiley faces to get a point across with jokes/teases/sarcasm. It can mean a difference between creepy or funny.
With the topic to talk about I just ask random stuff, they're really not any crazy questions. Asking them what do they do for fun? What's their favorite foods? Those two questions alone can expand to much more after you ask it.
For example if you asked what is your favorite food?
Her: "I really enjoy sushi, I don't think i'll ever get tired of it!"
You: "I like sushi also, I had sea urchin once and I couldn't take it. Texture and taste was odd. Have you ever had?"
Her: "No not at all, I have never thought about it but based off your experience I wouldn't want to"
You: "You gotta live a bit can't be boring all the time, what's life without any risk and adventures?"
Her: blah blah something else
You: "Now what's the most adventurous and exciting thing you've done thus far in your life besides talking to me?"
That was just an example, I don't think my "game" is great, others might see otherwise but it's never good enough for me. That wasn't an actual conversation btw, I just made it up on the top of my head. I always try to make myself interesting and someone she wants to know, I try to throw in something to show that I could add to her life. I could've just been boring and asked, "What do you do for fun?" Instead I went somewhere along the lines of, "What do you do for fun besides talking to cute guys like me?" It works for me, might be a bit cocky but it's also funny and shows confidence.
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