[Inner game]Has anyone successfully converted their "superficial charm/confidence" to the real thing?

puaCurveBall · 2014-03-13T23:42:27+00:00

Yes, of course.

Sounds like you need re-examine your ego and "personality".

Why doesn't your "personality" include the ability to improve and take actions which work best for both parties?

JesperSB_com · 2014-03-13T22:03:10+00:00

Yes, I did do it, but not by faking it...

Here is the book I wrote. http://www.scribd.com/doc/199570471/Basic-Pick-up-The-Basic-set-Explained

It helps you to create a strong inner game, build on the true stories from you own life.

hestertherabbit · 2014-03-13T23:41:39+00:00

Have you read Models by manson?

Stinkerpot · 2014-03-14T01:26:20+00:00

I started by focusing on things I did well. Even as simple as putting on real clothes or eating a good meal. I focused on things I did that mattered to me, and that's where real shit comes from.

Weegoh · 2014-03-14T03:15:43+00:00

The term "fake it till you make it" gets used a lot. It's a great start and it's done a lot of good for a lot of people (myself included), but at some point you realize that there's nothing actually backing it up and you feel hollow inside. That's not who you really are.

Remember that time when you were a little kid and you made that awesome catch or rocked that piano recital or fucked shit up in that video game? That was bad ass. You deserve to be proud of that moment. You're the man. Tell yourself that everyday.

Now think about all of those awesome moments throughout your life. Be proud of yourself for everything you've accomplished. The moment that superficial confidence becomes real confidence is when you realize that you are awesome and you do have things to be confident about.

Then you've gotta look at the other side. Remember your darkest secrets and your worst moments? It happened. Accept it. There's no changing the past. You've learned from all your mistakes and they have made you the person that you are today.

Be proud of yourself for what you've done and accept your shortcomings. Everything you've done has made you into the person you are today. When shit gets tough, take a deep breath and remind yourself who you are. You're the man. Be the man.

Good luck mate.

Tajimoto · 2014-03-14T20:52:05+00:00

Yes. I started with horrible social anxiety and it took years of hard work to get where I am now. The #1 secret for me was learning positive thinking. I used to always take things in my life for granted and only saw the things that need improvement. When I managed to learn to let go of my past self, embrace how awesome my reality really is, and obtain a positive outlook - it changed my life. Also, I don't use lines or gimmicks anymore - being assertive and direct has been the biggest positive change in my game. It does take more balls, but it's so much easier than taking indirect routes.

Title	[Inner game]Has anyone successfully converted their "superficial charm/confidence" to the real thing?
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Date	March 13, 2014 9:46 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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