What do you do when you start feeling yourself getting in your head/self-analyzing?

RandianHero · 2014-04-16T18:11:02+00:00

I remind myself to keep things simple and stop overthinking. Remember: nothing is ever as big a deal as you think it is, and there's no need to make things needlessly complicated. 99% of life's problems can be solved with force of will.

fezbeast · 2014-04-16T18:24:23+00:00

What has been working for me recently have been a combination of two things, mentally putting them on the same level as my close friends effectively removing them from the pedestal. The more you make this a habit, the more confident you will be and the less you'll actually stress about them. It's been my biggest obstacle in talking to people.

Second, (given that you've ever had a person act this way towards you) imagine the way that people who have liked you or wanted to bang you in the past have acted towards you, remember how it made you feel (ideally confident and comfortable) and solidify in your mind that the person you're approaching already feels that way and highly desires you. This (for me) removes the doubt about them liking me or not, or whether they'll want to get with me, because in my mind it's already a given. As a result I can more effectively focus on the conversation, the signals they're sending, and just being genuine overall.

Hope this helps.

Burguesmx · 2014-04-16T18:15:30+00:00

Have you seen that movie, the ones with the guy that was in Bob & Marley, were they become interns at Google?

"The interns" I think its called (lol), in the main intro of the movie, they are preparing themselves, getting in a state of mind by hearing their favorite music, singing along, and just don't caring about the world. A bunch of girls pass by, and giggle at them, but they keep singing, and then they even sing to them. Not a single fuck was given that day.

Oozing that confidence, that good vibe, is easily achieved by remembering cool things, friend get togethers, jokes, your favorite music, (in my case singing "Nanana" by My Chemical Romance), etc.

And boy, do chicks dig it. Learning to dance probably brings a lot of it too.

puaCurveBall · 2014-04-16T18:54:14+00:00

Meditate

Andrian-TQM · 2014-04-16T21:17:36+00:00

Perfect timing. I wrote an article on this on Monday. Check it out here. ;)

Andrian

HappyJerk · 2014-04-16T21:35:15+00:00

think about something else

Allen_Yuan · 2014-04-17T02:55:24+00:00

Depends on the situation. As a rule of thumb pick and choose from these:

Get comfortable
Break off the interaction
Do something funny/random

You can't immediately change your mental state during an interaction without being awkward, so don't try. Really, really doesn't work. Afterwards if I had a close brush with awkwardness I just remind myself the self-analysis doesn't help so don't bother thinking about it. You don't usually WANT to self-analyze, your brain is just habituated to do it automatically. Just let yourself think about what you really want to think about, oftentimes it is nothing at all.

rusty84 · 2014-04-17T04:12:08+00:00

This is going to sound weird, but when I'm feeling "inadequate", I just pretend I'm Brad Pitt or some hot shot celebrity, and I act like how I think they would act and it usually causes my emotional state to change...

Title	What do you do when you start feeling yourself getting in your head/self-analyzing?
Author	zach84
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	April 16, 2014 6:05 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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