Rejecting girls and how it's been treating me.

jimmyayo · 2014-05-08T17:08:35+00:00

"You can't next a girl you haven't fucked." - Chateau Heartiste

Sounds like you are prematurely ejectulating my friend.

First define what your goal is. You're swimming in intermediate waters and it seems like not trying to advance your game. Like you're content w/ the validation ur receiving from talking/texting/dating w/ these chicks and knowing that they like you and enjoying that validation, but also know there's more you can do. Beware the intermediate validation trap. Which is deceptively tempting because as a one-time-afc you never got that from hot girls, and now all of a sudden girls like you and want to be around you. You should be pushing yourself closer to whatever your real goal is - sex, or multiple open relationships, or fuck buddies, whatever.

simplisticallysimple · 2014-05-08T20:16:13+00:00

First, congratulations on the shift towards being an ex-AFC. That's an accomplishment in itself. You should be proud of it. From having no social life to getting dates, that's money right there.

Next, I don't hear about any F-closes. You want a girlfriend? Fuck her first. You'll know if you have sexual chemistry with her (which should be a big factor of consideration when getting attached to someone), you'll know whether you have what it takes to fuck a girl (which, if you haven't tested it yet, work on it please), and your "status" in her eyes will be "lover" instead of "friend", which is a much stronger base on which to pursue a relationship.

(I assume you want a relationship because you keep talking about second dates)

You're getting dates. Is that good? Yes. Is that good enough? No. You're still sexless and girlfriendless. Bad. Push the envelope further. Don't be content with just dates. Dates, no matter how numerous, are useless if you keep fucking them up by -- and this is by your own admission -- not putting your "intentions" out first. State your intentions, and go for it.

Get rejected for sex enough, and you'll start seeing some results, just like how you got rejected for numbers enough and then you started seeing some results. Move to the next level, dude. Upgrade. Stop jerking around. Your progress is commendable but keep pushing the envelope. Good luck.

AnonyBot32 · 2014-05-08T23:18:41+00:00

I'm walking down a similar path, though you're definitely further down the road than I am.

I came into this wanting a consistent social life, and now that it's starting to come together, I've realized that I'm addicted to the ego-boost involved in pick-up. And those two things are not congruent when your social circle includes girls who are attracted to you. I get excited after making plans for drinks on a Saturday night with a cute girl I've just met, but my next thought has been, "fuck... now I can't go out and hit on girls Saturday night."

The girls I've met are all nice, of course, but I totally get the "not good enough to keep around." I've become incredibly picky. I was making out with a girl on her couch when I looked at her hands and though, "her hands are a bit pudgy... maybe I should get out of here." With the ones who try giving me a run around, I usually end up ignoring them because I honestly think it's not worth the effort.

And, yes, apologies for it sounding like bragging. Really not trying to. I realize that these are incredibly good problems to have, and there might be a few people cursing me for my luck. Sorry... if you stick with it, you'll probably get to this point too.

Title	Rejecting girls and how it's been treating me.
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Date	May 8, 2014 4:19 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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