Don't "try" to create attraction - ASSUME IT!

IntensePancakes · 2014-05-09T03:02:51+00:00

The article is ridden with 'brocabulary" but looking past that it is a decent read and highlights a good sticking point for anyone.

"Assuming attraction was way, way, more effective than trying to create attraction with a girl who didn’t care. It forced us to enter with intent, charm the girl, escalate, close, and get it right the first time. For her sake as much as ours."

That's the best part of it right there. Something I always keep in mind is that you should never try to attract someone who clearly doesn't care. Life is short and there's tons of girls out there that will be receptive.

bl1y · 2014-05-09T14:54:01+00:00

One quibble:

You should try to create attraction. You just shouldn't be trying to create it while in conversation with a girl. The vast majority of attraction is going to come from things you've done before you went out. Getting in shape, having a fun life style, etc.

Trying to create attraction while in field is like trying to do strength training during a football game. Too late for that.

But, with one caveat: Building up confidence by getting a ton of approaches under your belt. Obviously that's training that is done in the field. However, your goal there isn't to attract, it's to build up an attractive personality, so it's like training through scrimmages.

joshsway · 2014-05-09T13:03:34+00:00

Assuming attraction is an extremely vague term that may motivate someone to enter an approach with confidence but functionally and logically speaking does absolutely nothing to increase your chances with women.
You should be creating attraction as best you can, always. And you should be trying. For some men, that trying means simply building the confidence to go up to her assuming she will like them, but unless you have a self worth or self image issue, "assuming attraction" is meaningless and functionally useless. I wrote about the "assume attraction fallacy" in detail here: https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/the-assume-attraction-fallacy

Title	Don't "try" to create attraction - ASSUME IT!
Author	TonyDAbsolute
Upvotes	30
Comments	11
Date	May 9, 2014 2:30 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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