'It's bad to be in your head' but how do you remember what Seddit has taught you?

HeinousFu_kery · 2014-06-03T00:44:12+00:00

BEING VS. DOING

What does that mean? Here's a shitty, but analogous, example.

Say you're a renowned martial artist. You've been training in the mountains for decades and fought numerous deathmatches. You meditate under waterfalls. All that crazy shit.

When fight someone, are you thinking, "I will now execute tactic A, counter with punch variation delta-gamma, and then roundhouse kick his femur"? Maybe to some extent, but for the most part, you're going to act on a moment-to-moment, case-by-case basis.

It's called unconscious competence. You've trained and practiced so much that you don't need to consciously remind yourself what to do, how to do it, when to do it, etc. It's in your blood, your memories, your muscle memory, etc.

Studying the book may help you logically understand a concept or technique, but without consistent practice, you will never be able to implement it. It's like, being a sportscaster vs. being an actual athlete. A sportscaster may know how pitchers throw baseballs, but it doesn't mean he can actually throw a baseball.

Should I somewhat 'study' the book? Perhaps I should just remember what I feel will benefit me now? Just get out of my head and if it comes to me, it comes to me?

I would do all three, but focus mostly on the last two. The second one is good because if you try to learn too many things at once, you wind up learning nothing. The third one is good because you learn how to do things correctly, not merely how to do them.

The first option is good, don't get me wrong. But logically understanding something is only half the battle, especially in something like PUA which you mostly learn from experience, not from a book or video or article or online forum.

HorseLifer · 2014-06-02T21:25:43+00:00

I'm currently watching RSD Tyler Durden's Blueprint Decoded, where he dedicates a lot of time on what being in state means. I think what most people mean when they say "don't be in your head" is actually "be in state". What you need to stop is not literally thinking, but being self-conscious and always assessing your performance.

As for how you can think on your little tricks when you're trying to remain in state, I think you will actually find that you will automatically remember them when you're truly in state. If you've energised yourself properly and if you stay on that energy level, you should be able to reach your repertoire without turning into self-consciousness, and that should allow you to remember your tricks.

intjpua · 2014-06-02T23:19:14+00:00

Pick one element to work on each time you go out, and don't worry about the other stuff. This is useful for any new skill. When learning a complex new piece of music, for instance, one might learn the rhythm first, then the melody, and then add counterpoint or harmonic content.

AllDreEveryDay · 2014-06-02T23:21:01+00:00

Use seddit as a reference, not as a guide. Be in the moment and when an opportunity arises, since you studied seddit so well, pull out one of the tricks/flirts you found on here.

2014-06-03T00:41:47+00:00

Internalize the info.

HorseLifer · 2014-06-03T02:31:35+00:00

OP, my advice is definitely to read the psychology. It provides tremendous insight into how people work and how situations can work better for you.

But don't get obsessed with it. Read it, and then forget about it. Try out one or two principles, as an experiment, but don't focus on matching it word for word (you see this with guys who have OCD, for example)

rargavampire · 2014-06-03T08:43:04+00:00

1)Discover what your worst social habit is.

2)Dont do that thing.

For example, my worst habit tends to be checking out of conversations early when I think I'm running out of things to say. If I can just remember to not do that one thing, I can fix it. Then once you're ok with that, move on and apply to any other habits you may have. Dont try to manage everything at once.

2014-06-02T21:36:06+00:00

Learning by doing.

Title	'It's bad to be in your head' but how do you remember what Seddit has taught you?
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Date	June 2, 2014 8:58 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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