So today I went out with the intent of approaching and for the first hour I wimped out. I had my typical bullshit excuse of "She might not be of age". I know its bullshit and I said to myself "I am going to walk to the local campus and first cute girl I see I am going to approach."

While walking to the campus I decided to try out some visualization thinking that if I visualized myself approaching a cute girl I may have less AA doing the actual approach.

Campus entrance I only saw a 2 set of unnattractive not my type girls. I did however spot a group of people, I figured what the hell I can go up to this group saying "I'm new to the area, what is your city like?" I started walking to the group and eventually right past them. I thought wow I can't even approach a fucking group of people. So I continued walking and I spotted a really cute girl, I walked up and said "Hi, you look like the kind of person that knows this city well"

She looked up and said "What do you mean? I just repeated what I said, she just went okay. I sensed disinterest right when I approached but I kept in set. Before I go into more detail I want to highlight my mindset during this approach.

  1. I was going for an instadate

  2. I wanted to try letting her talk more then me

We started talking and she brought up her boyfriend. At first I thought "FAKE BF" then she mentioned him again and at that point I knew he was real. Most people would of stopped the conversation here but I kept in set curious about her personality and her boyfriend. Her BF is this Top 30 CEO in the province and he is really driven. We talked at campus for an hour and I suggested we go get some coffee. Keep in mind I said very little about myself during the hour the most depth I went into was why I wanted to take psycology. I did crack a few jokes one of which was about sex but mostly I just let her open up. Which she did.

She agreed to coffee but she wanted to go to a cafe that was on the way to her house because her house was really far from campus. As we walk she got me to open up abit and it turns out we have literally the same interests. We both love thrift shops, urban exploration and architecture. She even said we need to do some of these things together.

While walking she showed me all these cool landmarks and arrchitecture which was fucking awesome then she said we will take the long way to my place I want to show you more things. I did some light kino on the way but most of it was just arm touching. Keep in mind I did not want to have sex with her. She was really hot (HB8.5) but I couldn't do that to her bf. We walked for a good hour and a half and arrive at her house alone bf not there. I figured she needed to get something but she just invites me in. At this point I thought, what the fuck? We ended up chilling at her house alone for an hour before her bf came in during this time she really opened up to me. Told me about her past relationships and how she used to be depressed. Reallydeep shit. Her bf came home and all 3 of us chilled for 30 minutes then I left.

A little information about this girl.

-Super smart, going to ivy league school in a year

-Very wealthy

-Traveled all over the world

-Super fun

-Reads a lot of old literature

-Semi-pro classical pianist

Basically she had a lot more value then I had and I was still able to somehow get her comfortable to letme come into her house alone. Really shows the power of listening to people and letting them talk.

When she did ask me a question I responded very honestly and didn't hide any of my past despite how embarssing it was.

Now for everyone going wow AFC you didn't close. I did close, # close. Hahhaha, I know I proabably could of F-closed her but I didn't want to fuck up things with her bf. I have strong morals I live and die by.

I think the big thing to take away from this FR is to remember that no one wants to hear about your life, it will never be interesting to others only yourself. Try to learn about others lives. Also try to attach an emotion to your conversation. Here is an example from today.

Her: I love working out and getting my body in good shape

Me: Yea, especially when you look back to when you started and could barely run 1k and now you can run 15k easily.

Her: Oh my god, it's such a rewarding feeling especially when after doing 1k you were basically dying"

Notice how I attached a feeling to my response. I could of said "Yea I used to run as well, I haven't done it in a while though."

What does that response do? It kills the conversation, she doesn't have much to go off on that sentence and she probably doesn't care to ask "Why did you quit?"

So next conversation focus on the feeling behind the sentence and try to connect with it. That was literally all I did today.

I also would suggest incorporating some visualization into your inner game. I don't think I would of approached her if I didn't visualize the approach.

Goodluck & remember making friends while doing pickup isn't a bad thing. Sex isn't the be all end all.