Ask BaM Monday

chyckun · 2013-11-20T11:59:19+00:00

If I have begun my red Pill journey while in a relationship, and believe I have gone through a lot of the phases, what is next? Have I messed up by appearing as both Alpha and beta to her?

asura_wahrheit · 2013-11-25T11:39:43+00:00

Particularly scrawny blue pill here ;-; before I change my ways would it be better to gain some weight and start working out first? Or shoulf I make the change internally first then start working on my body? ._.

2013-11-20T09:19:07+00:00

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GaiusScaevolus · 2014-01-22T12:30:08+00:00

There is something that bothers me a bit around here, not sure if it is cultural.

The whole approach is that you have desires, and you for your desires, you live to get what you want. This was always weird to me, kind of asocial.

To me being a man is more like proudly fulfilling the duties you were born into. Serve your country. Take care of your elderly parents. Have kids and raise them right. Die with the satisfaction that you fulfilled the mission you was given at birth. I mean, how to put it, you are always a soldier, even if you never enlisted, you still serve family, community, nation, mankind, and you are proud of it. This is manliness for me.

Is this desire-orientedness a particular feature of American culture where everything is based on the "pursuit of happiness", or do you think there are good reasons for every man being more desire oriented?

I never really had desires, they don't even make sense to me. For example I never cared much about sex, I wanted girlfriends because that is how you fulfill your social role of becoming a husband and father.

I never really understood the entrepreneurial focus as well. My life mission cannot be to make some bullshit product or service. Most products and services are bullshit. I never really bought anything that brought meaningful happiness to me or others. (OK the motorbike is kinda an exception.) Pity the man whose life mission is making a better mousetrap. Most of the "fulfill your dreams!" crap turns out to be dreams of entrepreneurship, people fooling themselves into making yet another product or service matters. Generally shit you can buy for money rarely matters. Important stuff tend to be priceless.

I gather the life mission can be defined in the terms of people, not products.

_Very_Relevant · 2013-11-19T19:21:33+00:00

This thread is for asking, yes? Il start.

How do you get a girl interested to you.

Imagine this scenario:

You have been quite the Blue-Pill before, and you have known a girl for a little while, how do you get here to notice you, and, fall in love with you?

I have heard alot on TRP And blogs about to keep the relationship ''stable, and dominant'' and how to appear ''Alpha'' but never how to get the girl, do you ask her? Or the opposite.

bob4job · 2013-12-26T05:02:09+00:00

Newb here. How do RPs approach? I think examples might help clarify, so I'll give some example scenarios. At a college party, in the grocery store, sit next to a girl in a class (at university), on the sidewalk, at a club/bar. I learn well from seeing patterns in examples, so if yall give examples of how you would open/approach, I will better understand the RP mentality as it relates to game.

Title	Ask BaM Monday
Author	GaiusScaevolus
Upvotes	8
Comments	25
Date	November 19, 2013 4:51 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/becomeaman
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