Why would a girl want to sleep with me when I don't even know how to kiss...

Diece · 2014-07-21T06:26:11+00:00

Your self esteem isn't as good as you think it is. Just starting off with the sentence "My self esteem is not the problem" shows me that it is a problem and you are insecure about it.

The only way you get experience with these things is manning up and seeking it. It can be done 3 weeks ago I never made out with a girl either. It can be done.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-07-21T06:36:07+00:00

If you pay closer attention to a woman, she will tell you how to seduce her. If she wants you, she will help you seduce her. She will help you through the awkward bits, like the first kiss. Just follow her lead once you've pressed your lips together.

2014-07-21T07:15:47+00:00

Kissing is extremely natural. Did you ever learn to laugh? I'm a ridiculous FA loser and even I managed to do it once.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2014-07-21T10:33:39+00:00

Self esteem is not the problem

I'm not saying this to shit on you, but to be honest with you. It sounds like you're in slight denial. "My self-esteem is not a problem, but I feel like I'll never be able to get a girl". That's straight up a lack of self-esteem, even if only a little bit.

The problem is that you're looking for reasons to avoid taking action. Meet women, self-reflect, and see what you can improve upon. Then meet more women and repeat. That's the only way to get better. You're basically quitting before you even start.

How do you think people got those skills in the first place? By doing the same things that you need to do. They just happened to learn these skills at a time where a lot of other people learned them. Ultimately, when you learn them doesn't matter. You just need to learn them.

Going to a prostitute or something won't help. It won't help you develop the skills to approach, how to be confident, how to be charismatic, how to physically escalate, how to create a genuine connection, etc. You're looking for a band-aid solution but it doesn't work like that.

Don't blame your external circumstances. You're an intelligent human being with agency. You have control over your life, whether or not you realize it.

etcomro · 2014-07-21T11:25:16+00:00

To directly answer your title, because women have a fetish for deflowering young men in the same way men fetishize deflowering young women.

And your self esteem is obviously the problem. Start every morning like this: Exercise, Meditation, Affirmations, Visualization, Read (Eckhart Tolle or Tony Robbins), and Journal. Commit to that for 2 weeks and see how you feel.

The_Turbinator · 2014-07-22T07:46:50+00:00

I was a virgin until 26, not even something as simple as a kiss.

Now when the opportunity finally came up for a make out session -my very first, mind you- I knew exactly what to do. No one ever tough me, I never read about it, I never experimented or practiced before. When the moment comes you WILL know what to do. It's a natural human behavior, like breathing or swallowing food.

And you know what the most interesting thing about that first make out session was? She complemented me on how I was a really good kisser. I couldn't get a grin off my face for the next week straight.

What am I trying to tell you? That you can dodge bullets? No. I'm trying to tell you that when the time comes, you won't have to.

Title	Why would a girl want to sleep with me when I don't even know how to kiss...
Author	The-Uprising
Upvotes	1
Comments	16
Date	July 21, 2014 6:16 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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