Values, friend zones and double standards

Have you guys ever noticed how you'd do all the things in the world for a girl and she'll never put you on a pedestal? Yet the guy who doesn't do anything for her she gives him all the attention? As men of seduction we need to be fully aware at all times of girls pushing us into submissive roles aka "the friend zone" it may not be obvious to you at the moment because you are "so into the girl and you want to keep her happy" because she is "special" and the one for you but if she was really the "one for you" do you think she'd give someone else higher priority than you? Most of us guys who are into the whole pickup scene we have a tendency to stop pickup when we've met an attractive girl that we want to be with and this is rather unhealthy. It's like quitting cigarette smoking then starting to smoke weed, my point? You've substituted one bad habit for another so the problem is still there,this makes it much easier to slip into your old ways. I for one was good at pickup man I was on fire! I could easily keep a convo going with women and they'll always talk to their friends about me so I ended up being friends with them all with no problem. Then I met a very attractive girl, who I ended up making my girlfriend when I broke up with her I lost all my seduction skills because I thought she was "the one" so during our relationship I didn't even talk to other girls which caused me to be too focused on her. Even though I was in control and didn't submit to her I still had a partial dose of oneitis, as I didn't have any backup girls. I was practically at square one when we left. Well... I'm still at square one and that was over 3 years ago.... My problem? Ive been too comfortable in my comfort zone and because of a major set back 3 years ago I became addicted to porn which in turn caused me to be too focused on the sexual aspect of life. It's an unhealthy habit I know and I'm making an effort to get better and get back into seduction. Ehh well I think... Still too comfortable in my comfort zone lol. Anyways this isn't about me, it's about us as a community. So with that being said here's some advice and lines you can use to get things going (All credit goes to Magical Tactics), example, ask her questions like- Do you remember the last time you did something so exciting that you couldn’t get over it for a few days? When was the last time you laughed really hard? If you had no chance of failure, what would you like to be? Who do you care for the most in your life? those questions gentlemen show active interest and can create bonds between you and her. Guys one of the major things you need to learn in this game is also how to have a mind of your own. Routine lines don't always work when you are trying to have a deep conversation with women or create a bond it rather makes you seem cocky and self centered in most cases. The other day I was talking to a girl at my school and she was telling me about this other guy at our school and how hard he tries to impress her using lines like "introduce me to your cute friends so I can get them pregnant" and other lines like that. When she was telling me I laughed because I used to use a line similar to that but I didn't try so hard like he did I made "cocky funny" a part of my personality so it seemed natural and not forced. I hope this post helps someone out.