What to say back to a girl who rejects you when you try to kiss her on the 1st date?

bigdongbassist · 2014-10-07T00:20:07+00:00

Also maybe not letting them see your reddit name is hittinit

IntensePancakes · 2014-10-07T03:09:02+00:00

There are no magic words to get girls to kiss you. You have to feel the situation, and her body language.

Does she seem really comfortable around you? Are you making strong eye contact with her? How close are you guys sitting/standing to each other when you talk? Are you kino escalating correctly? All of this you should take into account as to whether or not to kiss her.

Even taking all of this into account, sometimes it's still hard to tell whether or not she'll accept the kiss. So you just have to go for it. Forget trying to find a "perfect moment." If she rejects your kiss just don't worry about it and go on with the date. The worst thing you can do is act awkward about it. If you act normal and just move on from the kiss rejection then so will she. Put the kiss out of your mind for a little while. Then when it feels right try again. If she rejects your kiss again usually she'll say something explaining why she did and then you can feel the situation from there.

Also unless you're dealing with a super-religious person or another rarity, there's pretty much nobody in 2014 that won't kiss on the first date. That said, if it doesn't happen on the first date don't worry about it. Sometimes you just don't connect with her well enough on the first date for it to happen.

hijiggy · 2014-10-07T03:43:19+00:00

Do you have cooties? In a really playful manner.

manslutalt · 2014-10-07T18:27:33+00:00

If it happens a lot it means they're not excited about you. Flirt more/better before going for the kiss.

A rejection is nothing to worry about. Keep flirting and try again later, or move on to the next girl. You don't have to "say anything back".

clamchowderz · 2014-10-09T02:55:25+00:00

not always, but girls do reject on a purpose even if they want to kiss. i like to do the whole '3 attempts and if she declines each one, she definitely doesnt want to kiss'...the past two girls ive dated, both rejected me the first time...i ended up kissing them on the forehead. but at least they knew i wanted to be more than friends and that i wanted to kiss them. timing has to be right though, that's important IMO. To answer your question and assuming youre attempting when saying goodbye, i'd say "...cute" with a smark, brush her hand and say goodnight with confidence. make her want to kiss you and wait for the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. date.

RedEyeFan · 2014-10-09T19:34:30+00:00

There is no magical sentence you can utter that is going to make a girl want to kiss you. If you believe you need some type of magical phrase, you're doing it wrong.

Here's what you do. Build attraction. Don't know how ? Read. You subscribe here right? Read the top posts and those on the side bar.

If you're consistently struggling with 1st dates then it's time to look in the mirror and figure out what you're doing wrong, because, chances are you're fucking up something. Which is okay, it's probably fixable.

SinSlayer · 2014-10-07T00:18:32+00:00

Dont try to kiss her. Make her want to kiss you.

windowtothesoul · 2014-10-07T04:22:50+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't get involved with a girl who didn't kiss on the 1st date, given it was a good date and blah blah. She probably isn't going to want to move as fast as me and will be a hell of a lot more likely to be looking for a relationship, which just isn't something I want at this point in my life.

That said, you have to know what you want. If you want to put in the effort, go for it, but that's a choice you have to make. I would advise dropping her if you don't want to put in the effort, or playfully deflecting it if you do - make a joke but nothing too curt, only go for it again on same date if mood changes.

Title	What to say back to a girl who rejects you when you try to kiss her on the 1st date?
Author	hittinit
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	October 7, 2014 12:15 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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