I think this girl gamed me more than I gamed her but I definitely learned a few things along the way.

About two weeks ago I arranged a date with this girl that I met on POF (first date from that website, usually use Tinder). We live hella close to each other and went out for drinks at the local restaurant. I then changed venues and we went to play pool at a pub right beside my place. The conversation was good and free flowing but I went into that date with one goal – to initiate and escalate kino from the get go. Outside of the simplest moves (i.e. hug, guiding her through by holding her lower back, grabbing her hand to check her jewelry, etc) I did not escalate and the date left a sour taste in my mouth. I was going to cut my loses and learn from my mistakes (I mean she really sucked at pool which is the perfect opportunity to “teach” her and guide her through the motions).

To my surprise, she texts me four days later and flat out asks if I want to hang out again. I agree and set the plan in motion for my usual second date – a comedy show at an improv center. The cool thing is the actors sometimes ask for volunteers to join in their skits and I always put my hand up and for once get picked (I used to do theater and currently do improv so being on stage is a piece of cake for me). We make the crowd laugh and my confidence flies through the roof and with that adrenaline boost I go for a kiss during intermission. Some light kino during the rest of the performance and after the show I suggest we go back to my place for some drinks and head to the pub for dancing. Some LMR was her saying that she needed to work early the next day but I brushed it off. Once at my place things escalated smoothly and it was easy picking…

Here is where the lessons come in. After sex she playfully smacks me and asks why I didn’t text her back after the first date. She said she thought it went very well but was a bit put off by the fact that I didn’t make many moves during the game of pool. She didn’t just expect me to teach her how to play but wanted me to put my hands around her and take the lead. I don’t think I would have been able to close on the first date but would have guaranteed myself a second date. The only reason I even got a second chance to close was because she thought I was cute and her friend persuaded her to put her ego aside and just text me. This has been a trend for me on first dates where my tone and character is playful and full of sexual innuendoes but my actions are always one step behind (lack of touching and too distant physically) but I somehow always managed to get a kiss at the end of the night if I wanted to. This just confirms that women are just as sexual as we are and we got to always be escalating…it’s what they want and expect.