I love shit tests

Into_the_groove · 2015-01-11T16:18:59+00:00

I don't think I've ever seen a girl throw a shit test in the wild. I truly believe these are mythical.

seduce_my_anus · 2015-01-12T03:42:15+00:00

I know that all I have to do is not fuck up.

This line reeks of insecurity. If you're doing your best to not "fuck up", you are more invested in her opinion of you than yourself- A horrible mindset to be in. Why is being yourself so hard to do? So what if you say something that she doesn't agree with? Why is it considered "fucking up" if you're just being yourself?

As for shit tests:

What’s the difference between shit testing someone and simply doubting them? What’s the difference between a woman making fun of your job to see if you’ll defend yourself to her or her legitimately being unsure if that’s what you do for a living?

The answer: Her intentions. One is manipulative. One is simply being genuinely uncertain and wanting to know more about you. BOTH are done because she’s interested in you, but we’ll leave that alone for a second and focus on the manipulation. How do you tell the difference between a woman who is being manipulative (shit testing) and a woman who is genuinely curious about you (interested)?

So the friendly way she jokes about your hair is suddenly manipulation. That honest question about whether you miss your ex sometimes is manipulation. That concern that you don’t speak to your mother enough is manipulation.

This is a shitty way to live and a shitty way to date women. Yes, everyone is manipulative some of the time, and some women are manipulative a lot of the time. But walking around freaking out that women are shit-testing you all the time is labeling them all guilty without a trial.

You are choosing to interpret everything women say to you as manipulative and emotional, and then go around complaining that all women are manipulative and emotional.

The issue here isn’t women. It’s you. You don’t trust them.

I want to encourage you to stop making assumptions about people, especially women, and start taking them by their actions point blank. You asked earlier what vulnerability looks like. Well one way to be vulnerable is to be open about your expectations and values. You commented that vulnerability is “soft” and “weak,” but on the contrary my friend, if it was so weak, then why is it so hard for you to do it?

Here’s my take on shit tests: Who cares? Shit tests only have power over you if you’re overly concerned about her opinion of you. If you’re truly confident in who you are, then you shouldn't feel the need to prove it to her, especially some sassy broad you just met. The point is: If shit tests bother you, it’s because you’re weak.

I did not write this. All credit goes to Mark Manson.

Title	I love shit tests
Author	RededicateToReality
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	January 11, 2015 3:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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