My top 10 thoughts on why you're having trouble talking to women.

A brain dump that might help a bit.

  1. You don't need to convince all, or a majority of women that you are worthy of their attention. You only need to convince one (or one at a time). When you stress out about whether a woman will like you because of this or that, remember that you are not trying to win an election or a vote for prom king. You just need one, and considering how many women exist that isn't too tall of an order.

  2. Successful guys strike out more than unsuccessful guys. Focus more on getting yourself in front of woman and focus less on how any individual responds. Rejection is not a crash and burn situation. Smile, keep your game face, and gracefully move on!

  3. Confidence is internal, not external. You build it by coming to realize that you are proud of your achievements, that you are looking forward to where you are heading in life, and feel empowered to improve things. If you don't feel that way, your problem is not with women. Forget women and focus on that first!

  4. Women have it just as hard. Imagine having your cock size visible on your chest to everyone. Imagine your worth based on your looks. Men are lucky that we have so many avenues to increase our attractiveness. Beyond being naturally handsome, we can get ourselves into physical shape, we can get a good job, we can learn to tell jokes. It is easy to become cynical about how women pick their mates, but let's reflect for a moment on how we pick ours!

  5. Someone with the same insecurity is doing great! Are you ugly?(ps you're not) There are tons of ugly dudes getting action. Are you poor? There are plenty of poor dudes getting action. Are you shy? There are plenty of shy guys getting action.

  6. Talk to every woman. Do not only talk to women you are attracted to. The old lady cashier, the middle-aged lady in the line next to you, the girl in school who you aren't attracted to. These people are great practice! And you might actually make a friend by accident!

  7. Open your blinders. Once you've limited your options to one person, all the tips and tricks you read are powerless. You are preparing for the next woman you talk to and the 100 following her.

  8. Give yourself credit. It is easy to fall into despair when choke when trying to talk to a girl or you miss a obvious opportunity. Give yourself credit for every attempt, give yourself credit for even seeing the opportunity you missed. You cannot expect to change your behavior overnight. Keep vigilant over the long haul.

  9. It's okay to change yourself. There is this idea that someone should love you the way you are - take it or leave it. Unless you think you're perfect then you probably have room for improvement.

  10. Stand up straight! Pick your chin up! Stop talking like you never went to school! Pull your pants up! Take a shower! Speak up! Other people see this as a sign you don't respect yourself.