How do you talk about previous relationships if you had none?

King_Awkward_IV · 2015-02-28T18:56:41+00:00

It doesn't actually come up for a while. Most sane people don't pry about that. You have 100 more urgent things to focus on.

If and when it does come up, just own it. Don't be ashamed of it. Don't give a 3 hour tearful rant about how much you suffered. Treat it like any other fact.

UASHIT · 2015-02-28T18:50:59+00:00

I tell them I've never had any.

I've had success with it by telling them it's hard to find someone really cool when they ask. (They're definitely going to ask why you've never been in a relationship.)

mmmeadi · 2015-02-28T19:01:07+00:00

Easy: just say you've never met someone with whom you really connected. Shrug it off with confidence and that's all you have to say.

notyetdeleted · 2015-02-28T22:35:00+00:00

Be honest. Don't start fabricating a number of fake relationships with random women and create a giant web of lies.
Keep value. Don't say you've never been a relationship because every girl you asked turned you down. Instead, choose your words carefully, so you're telling the truth, but appear in control. You've been busy with your career, you haven't found someone that you feel compatible with, the timing hasn't been right since you relocate often, you didn't want to be tied down, you've been having fun in your 20s and a relationship hasn't been a high priority, etc.

MrBobDobalina23 · 2015-02-28T23:34:05+00:00

Talking about past relationships with someone you are trying to start a relationship with is bad bad news. Never do it. You'll end up transferring hurt feelings from the old to the new relationship. So if you have none to talk about, perfect! Plainly tell her you dislike talking about this subject for the reason I stated.

Th3Leak · 2015-03-01T02:29:56+00:00

Edit: Don't lie bros. It not cool. <3 iloveyouguys

Don't lie to the girl you're talking to. That's just bad man. If I was in your shoes, and a girl asked me on the topic of past relationships, I'd say something along the line of "I don't have any exes - noone has been qualified enough for that honor, but you could be my first" smirk What this joke does, is that it shows her that you're not put off about not having had any girlfriends, that you're interested in her, and that you can give a satisfying answer when being put on the spot! All three of these shows immense amounts of confidence.

Don't be nervous about this, everybody has had a first, so you can get it too! Just show her that you have the balls to own your situation!

ymiapheramone · 2015-03-01T11:15:31+00:00

Don't make a big deal out of it. If you act like its a huge flaw in your character then she'll see it that way. If you say it like its a matter of fact and there's no problem she'll likely see it that way as well.

You are the best authority on yourself so if you act like its a problem then it probably is. Don't let it get to you and she wont care either if she's worth having. If she cares then toss her, you don't need bitches like that.

recyclablebantha · 2015-03-01T14:35:19+00:00

When you're dating a girl, and the topic of previous relationships comes up (this topic will come eventually when discussing deeper about ourselves), how to avoid this topic.

I have never really had this come up. When I was still a virgin, I never once had to talk about my inexperience. (Except while hanging with the guys who were bent on one-upping each other. You're not going to date guys, right? So this isn't an issue.) The first time I had sex with someone I never talked about my virginity and they just assumed I had already had sex before.

In terms of conversation, it's not competitive. You just get the girl talking about herself and if she's so bent on digging through her past and comparing pasts, because she's not over hers, then you should next her anyway.

Past is past for a reason: if you don't bring it up, it shouldn't be coming up.

seducer4real · 2015-02-28T20:40:40+00:00

Be as vague as possible. Say something like "i've left my past behind me, it is not something i talk about'.

OR anything enigmatic, where the answer is very vague. And obviously if u do it this way, youre not lying...

Title	How do you talk about previous relationships if you had none?
Author	thathraw
Upvotes	11
Comments	12
Date	February 28, 2015 6:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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