THE DETAILS

I've known this girl since the 7th grade. Her and I formed a close bond over the course of our friendship and really things have never gotten close to being more than that.

There have been moments where I would crush on her hard. And when there seems to be some perfect sexual chemistry brewing, she seems to remain ignorant of it. Even when we hung out casually strangers would come up to us and tell us we would make a good couple. She would quickly respond with: "Oh, no we're not dating. We would NEVER date." All with a tone that sounded like it would be a bad thing.

I've even been invited by her parents to Thanksgiving dinner one year. One of the strangest experiences I've had with her and her family.

Many of our latest conversations (latest meaning like, a half year ago) followed the topic of sex. She's a virgin and seemingly has saved herself for whatever reason. Even though she willingly gave herself to one of her more serious boyfriends, but stopped him because 'it hurt too much.' This was all before penetration. Chances are, something happened.

In recent years though, I started to notice that I was her beta validation machine. She would call me up and tell me about how good her life is and want to hear what I had to say about it. And often times she would just call to see how things are, and I used to just appreciate that a close friend wanted to call and see how I was doing.

However, since I've been following the /r/becomeaman sub. I decided to cut her off. I stopped answering her calls, texts, and if I did answer anything. I made a point to be very distant and not caring about what she wanted or had to say.

It's been working out well for me, especially since I know there has to be some kind of attraction to me. Her new current boyfriend ironically resembles me, but he's definitely a chump.

THE QUESTION

I like her a lot, and I find her attractive. And since our lack of communication lately it really caught me off guard when she decided to get a hold of me to ask if I was going to be in town and if she could visit me.

Her - Hey Are you going to be in Boston on the 28th of December?

Me - Nope

Her - Are you going to be in Massachusetts for around New Years?

Me - Most likely

Her - May I visit you?

I took my time responding, which resulted in this conversation lasting through the course of a few days. I haven't told her if I wanted her to visit or not.

I don't really want to hang out with her unless I can bed her. I'm attracted to her and at this point in our friendship, its really the only thing I want from her.

What do I do?