My previous failures with women that I liked was that I essentially put all my eggs in one basket; essentially, I would get into a relationship or texting back and forth with the girl, and she would be the only girl I was talking to. I basically would latch onto one girl, treat her as the only girl in my life, and block out all other girls. Sound familiar?

This didn't work out well in the end. The chick I was seeing broke up with me, and every girl I talk to senses that they're the only one I am talking to and it turns them off (even if they were initially interested).

I had to figure this out. I read a lot of tips online (here, mostly) and the Book of Pook helps to reiterate that I should have multiple girls that I'm flirting with at any time. Even after getting a girlfriend, I should still continue to talk to other girls. For some odd reason, this actually doesn't mess things up with one particular girl. In fact, it helps. Girls can sense you are "preselected" (many/multiple girls are interested in you at once) and it makes them want you more.

I implemented this idea into my life. Began to treat girls not as the one, or the only girl I can talk to at one time, but rather one piece of a giant "girl puzzle" that I was building. It worked.

A month after I broke up with that chick that I had had oneitis for, I went on two dates with two different women in the same week, k-closed one of them, setup day2 with the other, and still had time on the weekend to go out and get hit on by this girl I am really interested in.

I'm telling you, they can smell the fact that you have many women in your life, and that you are not making them feel "special". Sidenote: it's okay to make a particular girl feel special, but don't go out of your way to do so and don't let her be the only one if you aren't married to her yet.

Suggestions for other sedditors: Fake it til you make it. The whole paradox of my post here is that it is hard to be talking to multiple women at once, if your problem in the first place is that you are not getting women or that you're losing women. Fake it til you make it. Every new girl you meet, treat her just like another girl. Put your interactions with her into your "repertoire" and don't get oneitis. Once you do this, go out and meet 10 more women. Talk to them all at once. You'll begin to notice that they become more interested in you, or at least they will return your texts.

This is partly due to the "preselection" (loved by women) idea that makes this work in your favor, but mostly it is your mindset. Once you start to develop the mindset that you naturally get and keep multiple women, it begins to show in your voice, body language, game, confidence; you develop a swagger and it definitely shows. This confidence then brings in more women. It's a beautiful cycle.

TL;DR: Go meet as many women as you can. You don't have to game all of them, just build a so-called inventory of women that you talk to all at the same time and you'll notice that girls will start gaining interest in you.