Picking up girls at work?

recyclablebantha · 2015-04-26T11:38:47+00:00

Something I've never seen talked about here is picking up female customers as a cashier or similar server. Have any of you guys ever done it? Any stories or advice?

Are you kidding? This thread is posted at least once a month. And without fail, the consensus is one of fear: "Don't shit where you eat."

This is bullshit, of course. It's not "don't shit where you eat." It's "don't get involved with people at work unless you can be discreet and unless you are good enough at reading people to avoid unstable girls."

I have picked up on guests and co-workers occasionally while I worked at a hotel. Never once did it get me in trouble. Why? Because I was discriminating about who I picked up on and discriminating about how I picked up on them. So dating at work never constituted "shitting where I eat."

shrimp0MASTER · 2015-04-26T06:37:47+00:00

I can give you a little story on how I met one of my exes, as a security guard, to give you guys an idea on how it might unfold.

I was seeing this new employee girl go about her business inside the building for a while now. As security, I'm assigned to an office at the entrance of the building so anyone entering or leaving the premises will pass-by it. Seeing how cute she was, I thought there was no way I would pass on the opportunity of asking her out. Great ass, pretty face and everything. Plus she was smiling at me every time she went-by my office (so I already had a step-forward, I guess).

She didn't know me personally at that particular point, besides the occasional courteous 'Hi' or a smile. But as she was leaving from the building, one day, I simply asked her to approach me as if I had something to say to her. Bare in mind that I said this in French, being a French-Canadian, but the principle's the same: ''Hey, my name's X, as you might know I'm a security guard in here. I need to enforce certain rules in regard to the company's regulations and you're actually breaking a rule right now.'' She looked at me surprised, asking what rule she was breaking. I simply answered with: ''You're being way too pretty on the premises.'' It came out better in French. ''I was seeing you work here for a while and thought you were really cute, so I just wanted to say hi.'' We had a brief talk, after which I literally asked her up front if she would like to go out sometimes. We exchanged numbers and the rest was history.

Bottom line for me is that you need to approach honestly, with good body language and clear tonality. Give her a good first impression, as well as let her know that you're a friendly guy who's comfortable with letting his sexual intentions known. Most of the stuff I've learned that helped me in my life were the top posts in this subreddit, as well as 'Models' by Mark Manson.

Never hide your true intentions. We're human and our main goal in life, arguably, is to reproduce. There's nothing wrong with letting your attraction to others shine. To me, it really came down to being able to feel comfortable inside my persona to the point of being able to cold-approach women that I might not even know.

jefasun · 2015-04-26T11:08:01+00:00

Don't shit where you eat. Keep work life and private life - private.

WittyDudeNotHere · 2015-04-26T16:34:55+00:00

While doing the ride-share thing, I drove a guy to work one night, who was a security guard at a bar in Downtown Los Angeles and says he gets girls on most nights. He wasn't very talkative, so I didn't ask for any details, but my guess would be that he's good at his job and picks up girls that are noticing him. Plus, they're already drunk.

Paulitical · 2015-04-26T17:01:32+00:00

Just don't do it.

freefromdesire · 2015-04-26T19:41:49+00:00

So many women out there, if you are forced to rely on the ones that are handed to you on a silver platter (i.e. a customer), you may wanna focus on getting out of comfort zone and approach!!

dudeweresmyvan · 2015-04-26T11:58:52+00:00

I read a post a while back about how the cashier would always say something positive about everyone that came through the door.

He got a lot of phone numbers that way. Just by saying "I like your bracelet." "I like your outfit"

To everyone, old, ugly included. Gets your confidence up

izzyazz · 2015-04-26T14:12:03+00:00

After fucking my bosses daughter, I'm constantly looking over my shoulder. I would never recommend this to anyone.

mind_maze · 2015-04-26T16:44:39+00:00

Bad fucking idea. Don't shit where you eat, don't get your honey where you make your money, etcetc.

derpyderpderpp · 2015-04-26T10:32:55+00:00

No. If customers complain, you can get fired.

opelmanz · 2015-04-26T13:33:00+00:00

IMHO, make your intentions known quickly and clearly, then let her simmer, check back later.

I've had only one office romance, at the end of a job. After it was over, good thing, since it didn't end perfectly and she was the receptionist. Not trying to think about that every time I walk into the office!

Title	Picking up girls at work?
Author	sirz345
Upvotes	27
Comments	16
Date	April 26, 2015 6:12 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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