ADVICE ON GOING OUT ALONE?

grass_cutter · 2015-07-12T02:44:50+00:00

I've been out alone 100 times. Stop giving a shit. Why are you out alone? Because you're new in town, or you're alone, and you want to have some fun /get some ass. Nothing wrong with that. Yeah it's awkward towards the beginning of the night, just play the 'new in town' card, even mention that to people ... hey any more cool bars around here? I'm new in town. type shit.

If the place is small and well-lit, I'll usually post up to the bar and get a drink and see who I can talk to/ bullshit. I usually start with dudes, to be honest, because I'm not really looking for anything but convo. This will often lead us having an interesting conversation (sometimes that women will somehow wind up in) or even rolling out the rest of the night.

If it's a big dark anonymous place, than being alone is pretty much 100% irrelevant, I'd just start hitting on women by myself like I typically do out with a bigger group. Oh and just to throw it out there, I'm an introvert and average looking at best.

JDawgSabronas · 2015-07-12T19:10:08+00:00

DON'T YELL SO MUCH

sicknick · 2015-07-12T03:15:05+00:00

I find it helps to go to the bar alone with a purpose. Go watch the game or go there to eat, or go to see a band, have some drinks and go from there. That should take care of any anxiety, i still do this sometimes.

josephkhan32 · 2015-07-12T14:02:48+00:00

The best advice anyone can offer you in this context is ' Just Start Going Out' . You can sit thinking all day long for the best solution but seriously there is no solution to it. The only solution is the action, once you take action you will start getting comfortable even if you are all alone.

Lefeudufou · 2015-07-12T19:41:40+00:00

To feel comfortable in any situation where you are not "feeling it" all you have to do is to own it. OWN IT. If you're out for fun, accept the fact and that you're out on your own and act confident, because you are comfortable, everyone is too.

Yesterday I saw a guy stand in the middle of the club, just looking at everyone dancing for 3 hours straight hahaha. Don't be that guy, go talk and dance.

t_11 · 2015-07-12T01:42:35+00:00

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throwawaymydrugs · 2015-07-13T15:19:47+00:00

I just drove across the country alone for 2 weeks with all of my belongings and moved to a city 3000 miles from home - so I can offer some advice. As other people have mentioned, just bring up that you're new in town. My opening line was usually "Hey, where do the young people go around here? I'm in town for the night and want to have some fun". Start with bartenders if the bar isn't crowded. Gradually build up to approaching sets of strangers. Most people are usually happy to talk with the new-in-town crowd and share their favorite spots. If you're really struggling, I suggest finding people who are sitting at a table without food. Body language suggests they're more open to strangers joining.

Ask what the best places in town are.

Ask about the people you're talking to. It's pretty easy to segue into almost any conversation topic when you start with being new in town. You can ask about their hobbies, best places to eat, hear music, watch plays, etc etc.

Title	ADVICE ON GOING OUT ALONE?
Author	adamwitdaherbs
Upvotes	17
Comments	8
Date	July 12, 2015 1:34 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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