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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
You need to be sexual rather than be a friend, best way to do that is to show your intentions clearly be physical say it.
[–]wrecktonomic 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I guess I'm curinous and all... Do ya'll just go...
'You are gorgeous'
type of deal.
I'm sure not the only idiot here
[–]Psychocist 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
On being more specific... stuff like "you look so cute when you squish up your face like that"... all you do is tell her the little things she does that drive you wild. That has more of an effect than "you're gorgeous" because it shows you're paying attention.
[–]ZephyrBluu 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Generally a bit more specific I think. It's really about showing the girl how you feel. E.g. You are attracted to her.
[–]wrecktonomic 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think this might be part of the problem. I've had a hard time moving on since I broke up with the ex, standards are probably too high.
[–]IpickupGrandmothers 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's not about giving compliments for the sake of giving compliments. It's about saying or doing what you actually think and feel.
Do you actually think she's gorgeous, and do you feel like telling her? Then tell her. Are you telling her she's gorgeous for the sake of telling her she's gorgeous? Then I'd recommend doing something that's more authentic for you.
It's not about what you superficially say or do, know what I mean? It's about the place that you're coming from that drives those actions.
[–]wrecktonomic 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah, I think a lot of my issues is that I am very genuine. I honestly will just make conversation with damn near everyone and then it becomes an issue when I dont treat girls I'd like to date differently. Last couple of dates I've been on have lasted three hours with solid talking and everything but I'm not good about pushing it from friendly conversation into 'more than friends' conversation. Any women I've dated for long periods of time pursued me after conversing, whereas I think I need to learn how to pursue them sometimes.
[–]IpickupGrandmothers 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hm, I'd argue that in some ways, you're not being genuine in the sense that you want to date them, but you're not taking action towards dating them.
whereas I think I need to learn how to pursue them sometimes.
Hell yeah! Be in the driver's seat! :)
IMHO don't worry about how to pursue too much. Chances are, you already know a fair amount, you just need practice. Just go for it, whichever way it shows up for you.
[–]FrozenFirebat 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Damn time travel, you're me, aren't you? I got into one relationship shortly after highschool, and was in it for 7 years. then was single for 2 more years. And yeah, i've had the same issue. I joke that when I learned to date again, I could always get a date because I was more well adjusted than most. But when the date came, I could even go out and have amazingly fun dates and still never get a second date because I never tried being sexual with them.
Yeah, I think I get to comfortable just having conversations and forget to flirt. Last date I had was four hours of us talking and nothing else haha.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Better than being single two years bruh! Hang in there.
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