Hi seddit,

This past weekend taught me a lot. Most importantly, it shattered my self-limiting beliefs about myself due to my inexperience with girls. A little background on my situation with the girl:

I graduated high school 6 years ago and started talking to this girl I knew off/on with FB/text. My text game is lacking but I ended up making plans with her to see her over July 4th weekend. She flaked on me with an excuse so I stopped pursuing her and then she randomly texted me on Saturday.

I've had a problem with asking girls out through text, so I decided to switch it up and call her. I told her I wanted to see her and that I wanted to take her out. She agreed and later sent me a text telling me she was excited to see me.

After setting up that date I decided to try and call another girl that I had been talking to. This girl didn't respond last time I asked her out so this time I called her and told her I want to see her before I left and asked her to hang out. She accepted and even thanked me for calling. I don't know if calling vs. texting has anything to do with this but I went from never having any dates to two.

On the date, we walked around a few shopping malls, got ice cream and talked a lot. Early in the date I told her to give me her hand and when she asked why I told her I wanted to hold it. Seddit’s taught me that fortune favors the bold. Anytime I thought about being physical (touching, grabbing), I would get super nervous but I'd internally tell myself, fuck it I have nothing to lose. At first she was reluctant but she said she would rather hold my arm. After that she reached for my arm pretty much the rest of the night.

We went to dinner and a movie and during the movie we cuddled for more than half of it. I didn't end up kissing her but she is guarded since she knows I am leaving for school in a different state next week.

I know to many of you it may not seem like a big deal. I held her hand and cuddled her, but I had a lot of fun. This is the start to my transformative journey as a better man. I’ve wasted so many years of my life engaged in toxic habits/depression/loneliness, I refuse to be a victim of circumstance. I’m changing my life, and I’m excited for the journey ahead.