So, the other day I was walking with my friend who recently got out of a 2 year relationship, he's trying to get girls so we went out. Anyways, in the middle of the night at 1 am with 2 other girls I notice he's texting...his ex. I pull him aside and tell him some stuff about neediness and all that then it hit me.

A good way to know if you're being too needy is to imagine her in your shoes at that same moment, would she be texting you or would she be focused on her date?

8pm you're in bed? What would she do? Text.

3am you're in bed? What would she do? Sleep

1am at a club with a member of the opposite sex? What would she do? Flirt and ignore her phone.

You guys get the gist of it, sorry for the bad post im on my phone and English is my 2nd language.

TL;DR: Put her in your shoes and think what she would do. Text or focus on the situation at hand.