How do I get into the hookup mindset?

Theswimmerr · 2015-08-12T23:13:23+00:00

I always come from the frame that I'm doing the girl a favor by sleeping with them. I also very strongly believe that you should leave girls better than you found them.

GraveDiggerTop · 2015-08-12T23:46:09+00:00

To be completely honest, you should approach the situation as if you are going to hookup. Its not a mindset it is just how you feel in that moment. Probably similar to why you started dating for years, in that moment feel like you would be with them for a long time.

Well now just do the same thing but think of it as "I will try to know her, and if something happens then sleep with her. If not, you didn't lose anything by approaching and getting to know her. What I'm trying to say is you should be outcome independent." /u/Tofutofu has a lot of excellent stuff about I'd recommend reading him.

FreedomInMyVeins · 2015-08-13T01:08:39+00:00

Try to fuck them with your eyes not your dick.

AndroWanda · 2015-08-12T23:35:41+00:00

I disagree that having a "hookup" mindset will help you find more quality women, actually the opposite. If you just want fast sex find fast women. If you want a quality woman(in my mind one who won't fuck on the first date but there are exceptions to the rule) you'll have to try harder.

In my opinion you get more experience with women when you are in a relationship than when you have a string of lays.

BozoHimSelf · 2015-08-13T09:37:05+00:00

Dip two fingers in water -> Insert into pooper.

cmiovino · 2015-08-13T15:48:56+00:00

I'm the same way - I prefer relationships over hookups. In fact, I've actually never had a hookup or one night stand.

However, I still practice seduction and talking to new women on a regular basis. My rotational is, I need to get good and comfortable with it so that I can achieve the relationships I want.

So although my long term goal is to find a really solid, high caliber girl, I can't do that unless I experience many many types of women to find out what I want and how they work.

I've gotten over the fears of one night stands and getting sexual early on by teaching myself that this is just the first phase of the interaction. You go out, banter, have fun, possibly get down and dirty, and this opens the door for more with that same person. More getting to know them, more opening up... a relationship. If it doesn't go beyond that, then no biggie, you experienced them for what they are, and move on. Hopefully they leave with an enjoyable experience and learn something from you too.

whatchugot · 2015-08-12T23:50:45+00:00

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ShitfacedBatman · 2015-08-12T23:51:48+00:00

My shortcode: "bring value."

Title	How do I get into the hookup mindset?
Author	whatchugot
Upvotes	42
Comments	21
Date	August 12, 2015 9:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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