I think I may have scared off a real catch

TrusssMiDaddi · 2015-09-23T03:33:34+00:00

You look needy, never text her again if she hasn't responded. Stop becoming their texting buddies before you guys meet in person as well, good luck.

ZephyrBluu · 2015-09-23T03:59:30+00:00

The thing I really don't get about chicks on tinder described in posts like this is them saying they don't you well enough to go out with you. You go out with someone so you CAN get to know them better XD.

Anyway, back to OP. You really need to meet up with her if you want to go anywhere. Stop freaking out about this one girl, it's not healthy and chances are there will be other girls like her out there :)

TheXXL · 2015-09-23T10:45:08+00:00

We met on Tinder and we had been texting for the past few days. From what I got in the text messages, I found that she was the first girl that I ever really connected with. I asked her out, but she said she didn't know me well enough yet, so we agreed to wait a bit.

Could it be that you don't get that many replies, and now you feel excited that there is one that actually repiles?

Everything seemed to be going alright, we would break each others ball and stuff like that, but she hasn't responded to me in the last day.

Always be aware of that people do have lives beside chatting. Women in particular, are being bombarded by text messages from all angles. No wonder that even the worst texting junkies need a day off sometimes.

Me being the neurotic, awkward oaf that I am, I texted her "I'm laughing at the irony inherent in this, but am I asking too many questions?"

Oooooh... bad move... You show that you are are not very confident, and she probably gets the vibe that you are very clingy.

Yes, I am aware that it makes me look needy, but I couldn't help the urge to ask the question.

I give you an advice: Whenever you feel the need to write something to someone, and you feel its strange, pushy or needy, but you still cant handle that urge, write it down on paper/text file or whatever, and then delete it/burn that sheet of paper. It will get this off your chest and it doesn't ruin your chances.

That was this afternoon, and now I'm freaking out that I may have alienated the first girl I have ever really seen a chance with.

Relax man... She is just one female of about 3.5 billion in this world, and at least one of millions/thousands depending on where you live.

I'm kind of saying this just to try to get it off my chest, but if you have any comments, they would be appreciated.

What i feel reading this, is that you really need to get more women into your life. Work on your confidence, and for the life of it, stay away from online dating. It is nice to fill the gaps but its so not worthe the effort in comparison to the real thing.

cr8s · 2015-09-24T04:04:41+00:00

GFTOW, brother. Stick to malls, supermarkets, libraries, dance classes, whatever... until you get past your AFC-ness, you won't have much better luck with online dating. Might just get you stuck in an LTR, instead (booooooooo).

Title	I think I may have scared off a real catch
Author	ajkoch16
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	September 23, 2015 3:28 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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