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[–]etr204 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fake it till you make it, one wrong approach doesn't matter. It's only a mistake if you don't learn from it, you are the master of your destiny
[–]elcdm 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is what I did. Pretended until even I bought it
[–]SeventhSentinel 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Listen to Shia LeBouf -- just do it. There's literally nothing to it other then actually doing it. Stop thinking about it and go for it.
[–]silver_nuke13 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I used to laugh and mock that meme but if you're receptive it can flow some good vibes in you.
[–]NileakTheVet -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The end of this comment is hippie jarble.
[–]silver_nuke13 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bleh kinda but i don't want to get too cheesy, as he isn't a real model to me. Psychic impulse then.
[–]always-improving 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
you can slowly built up to it if its really hard. Try complementing people each day no matter the sex (nice hair, cool shoes, awesome hat.... etc). Do this until you're comfortable then it should be easier to initiate conversation (cool hat, where'd you get it?) something like that, or simply saying hi works. Just remember the worst thing they can do is ignore you
[–]Skippy244 3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Go up to the first girl you want to talk to, and fucking talk. If you're scared count to 3 and go. What's the point of reading if your not going to anything? GL
[–]SonOfZeus3 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great point. It's hard as fuck. Sometimes it feels like you're standing in cement blocks but the 3 second rule is a must to follow.
[–]evilgenivs 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fake it until you make it can go horribly wrong when things get to close and are new(!).
Personal experience here. This girl got really really interested in me after I talked to her for 10 minutes. I was actually talking with a good friend of hers. I don't have problems with talking and flirting.
But then she invited me for Netflix and chill and I had no idea what the fuck was happening, she was on top of me, dry humping me. I shut myself down by over thinking, over analyzing the situation and that's where I FAILED hard. It was all new to me. And I learned from it. And that is what you want.
[–]SenorPuff 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why does it require confidence to talk to her? What are you presuming? What pressure or importance are you placing on talking to her above that of talking to anyone else?
[–]rawrdoublurawr 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you say things like "I just can't" you are not giving yourself the chance. Why can't you? There's a saying by I forget who but its "whether you believe you can or you can't, you're right."
I just posted about this kind of stuff so look at my most recent post on here. DM me if you have any questions.
And if you haven't already, read Models by Mark Manson. This will give you the mindset you need.
Until then just talk to girls for no reason other than to talk. Talk to them like you would anyone else. They're just people.
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