How to seduce a girl who is in already relationship

How to seduce a girl who is in already relationship with someone else

Why you can: First of all: From my experience more than half couples are mismatched (I would say at least 60%) for several reasons: - A lot of the girls cannot be single. They are scared of this idea. They absolutely need to be in a relationship with somebody. But they often need more the function of a boyfriend than the person who occupies this function; - A lot of long term couples are no more connected. They’ve often evolve in a different way. In that sense it is often way easier to make a long term (more than 3 years) couple to break up than a young one; - Eventually, most of the couples tend to have a long boring routine. Passion has fade away a long time ago; - People don’t challenge their couple: there are in couple and they don’t ask themselves why they should stay with this person. They are both lazy and insecure. Their couple is their comfort zone and breaking it to find a better person don’t worth the risk; - A lot of girls are constantly in couple but feel alone. They have no deep connection with their partner. They are not in love anymore but they don’t realize it; - A lot of people are in couple for bad reasons : to mimic their friends, to please their families,… - A lot of people are just lying to themselves. They force themselves to pretend they are happy; - A lot of guys become boring when they get in couple

Why you should: Not for moral reasons obviously. But: You cannot have a girl who truly loves her boyfriend. So all the couple you’re going to break are ill anyway. You actually often help people by breaking their couple. To widen your horizons. It depends on where you live, but the love market is often very tight. And often the girl you like is already in relationship. The game is the game.

The risks you take You have to be aware that some girls are in couple and just like flirting but they are just playing you. Some time it easy to see some time not. Beware of the friend zone. Don’t become her Gay confident.

The set up : You have to manage to be with the girl without her boyfriend. Sometime it’s impossible. But often you can for example : - Parties without her bf; - Social activities : dance, politic activities, sports, any hobbies; - School / work;

The method: You have to challenge her couple. To show her there are better alternatives. And you have to bring it to her. But never do it frontally. Let her process this idea. From my experience, The n°1 key is connection: you have to figure what her boyfriend is lacking (connection/conversation, fun, challenge,…) and provide to her. Be aware that even though she is in a relationship she may feel very lonely. Be fun, be invested in her, be real, listen to her (and remember what she says), be playful, be charming show her you like her but in a subtile way. You have attention her boyfriend never have to her (never expansive).
Avoid the subject of her boyfriend. You’re not her couple therapist you’re here to kill the couple. Remember it. But never trash talk of him. She may doesn’t love him anymore but she may have respect and reflexes. You have to give her safe occasion to see you. So she can tell her boyfriend and she can lie to herself. If you meet in social activity: for example climbing tell her that there is a new spot and you want to try it next week. If she wants she can come with you. It will be a date but everybody is pretending something else. Never pressure her. If she cannot come it’s her loss. The next time you see her tell her it was amazingly fun. She will regret it. This is very important. Let her boyfriend be the constraint not you. You have to be the fun part of her life.

As she always meets you for the good moments (hobbies, parties,…) and as you’re always fun, playful, connected to her. In her mind you will be associated with fun, smart, hobbies, connection/conversation. Once again you have to understand what does lack in her life and provide to her. You have to become the bright side of her life. (you can find a lot in this subreddit on how to connect to a girl).

Whereas her boyfriend, who is always with her, will be associated with constraint and boring routine (“same old same old”). Because every night she ears him snoring, she sees him cutting his nails, he doesn’t help her to wash / clean up. She has to justify herself if she wants to go out or see you, ... The match is totally unfair and you’re winning it by contrast.

You will notice she likes you in a romantic way if you witness little detail such as she bullshits her boyfriend about where she is or if she delete your texts, or she will arrange meetings without her boyfriend. Or she texts you only during her office hours because she doesn’t want to do it while she’s at home. At this point she is lying to herself. She likes you and needs you.

Use jealousy The jealousy is a game changer when used properly. Don’t use it too soon. Use jealousy when the girl is already attached to you. She has to feel that there is a danger that you are not dedicated to her that other girls are interested in you. But it has to be very light. Just some allusions sometimes (you can totally make it up). A lot of time I said an ex girlfriend is sending me texts and sometime calling and that I don’t understand why… Suggest it.

Then make a move. Maybe It won’t be necessary because she did it by herself. It happened to me few times. You can win at this point.

But she will often reject you. It is totally normal. Leaving her boyfriend right now is just impossible. She has to deconstruct her world. She will feel very confused and bad in one hand her security is telling her to keep her live the way it is on the other hand her passion is telling her to leave her boyfriend. She will admit that she was unclear to you but she didn’t know, she will bullshit you and lie to herself. It’s totally normal. Don’t put more drama. Be a gentleman. Tell her calmly that you like her the way she is and you just fell for her. You think that you have a deep connection to her and that you would make an amazing couple. But if she doesn’t see it that way you leave her and prefer not to see her. You can use jealousy at this point telling her that you didn’t want it but you’re going to see your ex as she called you to see you. She will be sad and will return to her boring, safe and not challenging life. But now she has experienced the alternative. She is missing the fun and the connection. She misses you. She needs you as heroin. Besides she feels the danger of your ex. Finally she keeps seen her boyfriend the reason why she had to let you go while other girls can catch you. During this period do not call her or try to see her. You have to be strong. Let her mind do the job. And remember you cannot be a constraint to her. She will (95 % of the time) come back by texting you, calling you, arranging a meeting to talk (a big one). At this point you cannot lose.

The seduction duration often last between 1 to 3 months.

Last insight In my experience Boyfriends often don’t see me as a danger. And at last try to kill me…

Hope it will help some of you