How do you deal with the 'compliment of death'?

petriomelony · 2015-10-31T17:36:08+00:00

Breaking this down... Questions 1 and 2 tend to come about when the girl thinks that the guy is "out of her league" or too charming for his own good sort of thing. They could indicate a lack of self confidence (girls are people with their own insecurities and stuff too). The third one, "I'm not going to give you what you want," that is just flirting/playing hard to get. Or could indicate she's a bit of a control freak/vindictive bitch.

Case 1 is a good opportunity to show some vulnerability and develop an emotional connection. Tell her what exactly about her makes your heart race/dick harden/etc. If she's not doing that for you, maybe it is better to find someone else in the club. You can also use this as an opportunity to transition the conversation to a more sexual nature.

Case 2 is her accusing you of being a man whore. Again this is a great opportunity to showcase your sexual freedom and build trust with her. Like those other posts recently were talking about, girls don't want to be judged for having sex, but they want to relinquish control, etc, etc. By showing her you're comfortable with the idea of behaving like a grown adult and not making sex a big deal, she'll feel more comfortable with you. This one obviously needs some calibration - if her family is like hardcore Catholic and she's only ever slept with 1 person or something, then you're going to need to respond accordingly.

Case 3, if she's flirting, just talk about all the things you want to have/do right at that moment. Tell her she's right, tell her you want some tacos, and then take her to a fucking taco stand. Show her that you get what you want and it doesn't matter if she wants to deny you things. This one seems like more of a frame battle - what makes her think she can stop you, anyways?

Case 3, if she's actually trying to spite you and deny you what you want just because you normally get it - gtfo and find someone who reciprocates pleasant feelings.

beat_yourself_off · 2015-10-31T19:15:01+00:00

First off, congratulations. This means your game is starting to take off. I started to get these types of responses when I started getting consistent lays in college. For me, it was a form of last minute resistance with a subtle hint of shit test. At this point, she's considering sleeping with you, but wants to make sure she isn't just another notch on the belt. I used to get it when she'd ask me to walk her home. She would always prep it with swearing we weren't going to have sex, but we always did have sex. If you can successfully get past this you're golden.

So how did I deal with it. The common shit tests I'd get were:

What are you some type of player? Do you do this with every girl? How many girls have you had sex with? (She says it like she is expecting a big number) You always know the perfect thing to say. etc.

Here's how I dealt with it. The first thing to note is that the amateur move is to get cocky, let your ego brag and agree with pride. This actually has a reverse effect: it lets her know your not a player because your getting emotional and reacting too much to her shit test disguised as a compliment. Your goal is to confirm to her that you do get a lot of women (because women are attracted to guys who other women want to have sex with), but you don't want to do it in a way that 90% of guys do which is to take it as a compliment and agree. I think it is extremely beta to brag to women that you get a lot of sex. It's a turn off. Actions speak louder than words. Make her want to have sex with you and she'll know it.

So here's my method: play dumb with a smirk. I had nearly 100% success with this and it would drive women crazy. Here's my responses. Remember, we're walking to her place.

Her: What are you some type of player? Me: What are you talking about? (Smirk) I just thought you were pretty and am walking you home. Her: (laughing) Ya, whatever. I'm sure you do this everynight. Me: Don't know what you're talking about. (Grab her and makeout)

Her: Do you do this with every girl? Me: Only one's as goregeous as you. But that's rare to find, so no. Her: Ya right, I bet you say that to every girl. (Smiling) Me: I have no idea what your talking about. (Smirk, stop her, make out)

Her: How many girls have you had sex with? Me: I don't count. (This is true, I lost track after getting consistent women) Her: Ya right, every guy counts. Me: Not me, I just like sex. (Grab her, make out)

Her: You always know the perfect thing to say. Me: It's easy when I'm talking to you. (Grab her, make out)

Now, I will say this won't work for every guy. It depends on your style of game. This worked extremely well with me. I found that my game got a lot better after about a year of getting out there and practicing in field. You want to know how it got exponentially better. At about that year mark, I got off of seddit and started to break some of the hard rules. You have to find your style. Seddit is a tremendous resource, but its a general guideline not an absolute.

For example, I know that some people on here would find my game style as putting her on a pedastool, but I actually don't because I frame everything as a joke and I always make sure to keep my value equal to hers in this joke. I will joke that women objectify me for my sexy good handsome looks. I keep it equal.

Anyways, just playefully play dumb and do it with a frame that you and her know the truth.

blitzik · 2015-10-31T18:24:51+00:00

You're not qualifying the girls properly. It sounds like the rest of your game is tight though, so that's really great.

Bone up on qualification and start making that a more core part of your game. Done correctly, the girl should feel like shes winning you over through the course of the interaction. See how that changes your results!

2015-10-31T23:40:10+00:00

shit tests.

2015-10-31T16:20:52+00:00

Bounce it right back to her:

Q: You could have any girl in this club. Why me?

A: Yeah, why you? (Let her qualify her self to you)

Q: I'm just another girl to you. There'll be someone else tomorrow.

A: ill give you one chance to prove me wrong

Q: You always get what you want, so I'm not going to let you have it.

A: Alright, goodbye (walk up and leave, she will tell you to come back)

DaygameCoach · 2015-10-31T17:39:08+00:00

Read the sidebar help on "Shit Tests". Also, there is a beginner board:

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Title	How do you deal with the 'compliment of death'?
Author	whitsun
Upvotes	14
Comments	9
Date	October 31, 2015 3:20 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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